Is it normal that i want to live with my dad

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I am frustrated. I’m 18 and still live at home but can’t move out just yet as can’t afford it smh.

I’m convinced my mom loves her dog more than me. She got it as a puppy when I was 13 and when it comes to treats and toys she will not and never has spent half of what she spends on the dog on me. When I try and spend time with my mom her dog comes running towards us and gets moms immediate attention and our time together ends. My mom will ignore me while she’s on her phone or computer on Facebook, (which is most of the time) but if her dog comes along, viola! immediate attention and love 🙄😒

Moms been like this ever since she got the dog. Prior to getting the dog mom used to be my best friend smh. I suggested getting rid of it and I have tried explaining how I feel on multiple occasions throughout the entirety of her having that dog, and she won’t budge, doesn’t seem to care about the way that I feel and thinks I’m a disgrace for wanting rid of an animal that already feels part of the family. Yes - she really had the audacity to call a non-blood related, non-in-law, animal that is not even the same species as us part of our family smh.

If I try and ignore her and get on w/ my own life she uses the fact that I still live in her house against me. And if I don’t talk to her and keep being a “miserable cow” (as she puts it) she threatens to kick me out of her house.

I have no savings after she drained my bank account of all my money. She said she did this because she wants money back for the things she spent on me throughout my childhood and that I “still have allot to pay back” because I complained that she spends more on the dog than me.

And she charges me rent (cheaper than somewhere decent I could buy but I can’t afford any alternative than to live with her) and makes me pay for my own food. My savings are about £40 a month smh.

Any advice appreciated

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    Of course you'd want to live with your father but you don't say if that's possible or if he'd want you to live with him. Have you checked this out with him?

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Do you have a job where you’re getting steady income? If I were in your spot I’d move out. Also if you act miserable she will kick you out? Wtf is that. Sounds like a bitch. And to pick an animal over your own kids attention that’s just hurtful and weird.

    One of my moms friends is OBSESSED with her annoying ass little dog who’s barley trained pisses and shits everywhere and is the absolute worst. And I fucking love animals but he’s in such lack of training it makes me rip my hair out how crazy she is for him when I have to see it. She refused to make him listen. For that I literally avoid being around cause it’s so annoying. I can understand some of the annoyingness of those situations. Just showers him in treats and says good boy while he fucking runs around pissing everywhere. Like what the actual fuck 😂.

    Also side note my mom does the same with her face berried in facebook I hate it. Her and all my aunts I’ll be trying to hangout with them and just be sitting there talking to myself cause they never listen. Then 5 minutes later I get a “what”. At least I got the decency to drop my phone to pay attention to someone who talks to me. Drives me crazy. No joke a few weeks ago my aunt asked me if I still love her cause I never liked one of her posts. I don’t even have facebook. I hardly use any media. Most I’m on is here and this place is enough of a handful.

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    • Squirrellysquirrel
      4 years ago

      Moms dog is untrained too and also does her business around the house 😤 the dog ur describing in ur post is just like my moms! Smh

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    • Squirrellysquirrel
      4 years ago

      Also dog stained every carpet in house and she did it so much we had to replace it three times and I had to pay towards it or mom threatened to kick me out she took it from my bank account and yes I have a job but I don’t earn enough to save more than £40 a month which my mom then removes if it doesn’t get spent on anything because apparently I have to pay her back for my childhood and if I don’t let her she threatens to kick me out but I can’t afford to live elsewhere smh

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      • [Old Memory]
        4 years ago

        Seems weird she’d make you pay for something that’s really on her. Also again wtf, why pay back for childhood? You should know having a child you’ll have to pay for it, a kid shouldn’t have to pay back a parent for being a kid. Your moms an interesting one. Toxic in a way. That’s not much, is there a way of getting more work hours or a better paying job? Is living with your dads an option?

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    It's not the little dog's fault that your mom is a massive bitch. Call your dad up on the phone, and tell him what's going on with your mom. Ask your father if you can move in with him.

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  • trexagireve
    4 years ago

    Ask your dad to move in with him or find a sugar dad to move in

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