I totally agree. Didn't mean to come across as rude with the way I responded btw. This topic just irks me to the point of creating physical symptoms and most people don't seem to fathom how anyone could feel so hurt, as many people these daze only seem to want sex without love, when the two are hand in glove to me and always have been. Ever since I was a child 6-7 I wanted romance, but the way people view sex these daze has completely ruined coitus for me.
I suffer everyday because of this and it just doesn't feel natural to me; I know this within my heart no matter how many people are conditioned to think it's not 'normal'. Normalcy doesn't equate to the reality for some of us!
Cheating is a bigger deal to me and person A than with person B. Just the same as with swinging or polygamy; I'm not against it but what I don't like to hear is people claiming that desiring a monogamous relationship is 'unnatural' without knowing me or others who desire it, let alone those who have lived it for 80+ years in bliss without a single thought of having other partners. People read a mainstream article (from jezebell or other commercial sites) and seem to think whatever that's written is set in stone and 'scientific', when even the science is monopolized to suite the needs of bankers... long story.
I think monogamy is totally natural! It doesn't always work out of course, but I think betrayal is so selfish, and cowardly compared to just being honest and admitting that the relationship isn't working. I do envy people who get to marry their high school or college sweetheart, and then go on to spend their lives together! It seems those people with many decades of blissful monogamy under their proverbial belts have an advantage over the majority of us who are less fortunate, because they seem to live longer, healier, more productive and more successful lives.
I myself have been accused of being a serial monogamist, and I can't deny it's true, but it's not because monogamy is a faulty institution, but rather because I myself have made poor choices in my life by virtue of my own lack of adequate moral and spiritual formation as well as a lack of guidance on the part of my parents. I love my parents very much, but do have my share of resentments against them. I think they did the best they could, but that their so called guidance tended to manifest itself more so in my mother's strict and sheltering ways and my father's passive aggressive editorializing of television, news, current events and pop culture when what I really needed were much more direct, heart to heart, objective, loving and non-shaming open communication.
Well I have to live through other lives because I don't even know what it's like to hold anyone's hand in 28 years and probably until this body's 6 feet under (can't wait). So in lieu of envy I feel relieved to see that there are those out there that actually give a fuck about one another. Just look at some of the comments down where I was responding; people don't know anything about love. People get married for all the wrong reasons and when they get into fights that's considered 'love' nowadays. People love their pets more than their so called 'lovers'. hah "lovers" what a joke that word is. Dogs these days get more love than some people honestly. Its' so sad how low the human race has fallen; not that they were ever really civilized about love anyway.
Think of it this way: at least you had someone in your life even though the relationship wasn't the way you imagined it should be. I was a romantic ever since I was 6-7 and all I ever saw was hatred and shallowness. When they do marry its almost always about superficial reasons that have nothing to do with love, yet they ignorantly think that's love and proceed to call their co-habitant slaves their "lovers". What a joke. And people get surprised when there are those like the OP who get so upset over cheating or disloyalty. These people were spoon fed all their lives and know nothing about heart break and loneliness. They treat their dogs better than their own partners, so why marry? Marriage is a joke that profits the bankers and has naught to do with love or even friendship. What's friendship let alone companionship when you throw your husband/wife out of bed for your pet dog cause its more important to you? Why get married then you morons?
I don't stand for that shit which is why I'm alone and would rather die alone. The more I read comments by fools who don't know anything about love the more depressing it gets. It's why I don't watch television anymore cause it's all about cheating and shallowness crammed down peoples' throats , and I'm gonna end up eventually abandoning the internet as well. Toxic waste is better left in the garbage disposal than to waste our time with. If I was ever with someone then I better be their #1 or it's just not worth it for me. I better be loved for who I am and seen as the most attractive to that particular person, as they would to me.
If you're with the right partner attraction+love would fit like a puzzle, creating a beautiful picture of love. Unfortunately most people dont' expect anything except sex or money or stupid superficiality that bores me because there is so much more out of life, and yet it's so difficult to go on with life when your'e constantly alone and have 'love' (which is really nothing close to love) crammed down your throat everywhere you go. Dogs even have human lovers yet some of us are doomed to suffer alone for nothing.
IIN That i want to kill women who cheat on their boyfriend/husband?
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I totally agree. Didn't mean to come across as rude with the way I responded btw. This topic just irks me to the point of creating physical symptoms and most people don't seem to fathom how anyone could feel so hurt, as many people these daze only seem to want sex without love, when the two are hand in glove to me and always have been. Ever since I was a child 6-7 I wanted romance, but the way people view sex these daze has completely ruined coitus for me.
I suffer everyday because of this and it just doesn't feel natural to me; I know this within my heart no matter how many people are conditioned to think it's not 'normal'. Normalcy doesn't equate to the reality for some of us!
Cheating is a bigger deal to me and person A than with person B. Just the same as with swinging or polygamy; I'm not against it but what I don't like to hear is people claiming that desiring a monogamous relationship is 'unnatural' without knowing me or others who desire it, let alone those who have lived it for 80+ years in bliss without a single thought of having other partners. People read a mainstream article (from jezebell or other commercial sites) and seem to think whatever that's written is set in stone and 'scientific', when even the science is monopolized to suite the needs of bankers... long story.
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I think monogamy is totally natural! It doesn't always work out of course, but I think betrayal is so selfish, and cowardly compared to just being honest and admitting that the relationship isn't working. I do envy people who get to marry their high school or college sweetheart, and then go on to spend their lives together! It seems those people with many decades of blissful monogamy under their proverbial belts have an advantage over the majority of us who are less fortunate, because they seem to live longer, healier, more productive and more successful lives.
I myself have been accused of being a serial monogamist, and I can't deny it's true, but it's not because monogamy is a faulty institution, but rather because I myself have made poor choices in my life by virtue of my own lack of adequate moral and spiritual formation as well as a lack of guidance on the part of my parents. I love my parents very much, but do have my share of resentments against them. I think they did the best they could, but that their so called guidance tended to manifest itself more so in my mother's strict and sheltering ways and my father's passive aggressive editorializing of television, news, current events and pop culture when what I really needed were much more direct, heart to heart, objective, loving and non-shaming open communication.
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Well I have to live through other lives because I don't even know what it's like to hold anyone's hand in 28 years and probably until this body's 6 feet under (can't wait). So in lieu of envy I feel relieved to see that there are those out there that actually give a fuck about one another. Just look at some of the comments down where I was responding; people don't know anything about love. People get married for all the wrong reasons and when they get into fights that's considered 'love' nowadays. People love their pets more than their so called 'lovers'. hah "lovers" what a joke that word is. Dogs these days get more love than some people honestly. Its' so sad how low the human race has fallen; not that they were ever really civilized about love anyway.
Think of it this way: at least you had someone in your life even though the relationship wasn't the way you imagined it should be. I was a romantic ever since I was 6-7 and all I ever saw was hatred and shallowness. When they do marry its almost always about superficial reasons that have nothing to do with love, yet they ignorantly think that's love and proceed to call their co-habitant slaves their "lovers". What a joke. And people get surprised when there are those like the OP who get so upset over cheating or disloyalty. These people were spoon fed all their lives and know nothing about heart break and loneliness. They treat their dogs better than their own partners, so why marry? Marriage is a joke that profits the bankers and has naught to do with love or even friendship. What's friendship let alone companionship when you throw your husband/wife out of bed for your pet dog cause its more important to you? Why get married then you morons?
I don't stand for that shit which is why I'm alone and would rather die alone. The more I read comments by fools who don't know anything about love the more depressing it gets. It's why I don't watch television anymore cause it's all about cheating and shallowness crammed down peoples' throats , and I'm gonna end up eventually abandoning the internet as well. Toxic waste is better left in the garbage disposal than to waste our time with. If I was ever with someone then I better be their #1 or it's just not worth it for me. I better be loved for who I am and seen as the most attractive to that particular person, as they would to me.
If you're with the right partner attraction+love would fit like a puzzle, creating a beautiful picture of love. Unfortunately most people dont' expect anything except sex or money or stupid superficiality that bores me because there is so much more out of life, and yet it's so difficult to go on with life when your'e constantly alone and have 'love' (which is really nothing close to love) crammed down your throat everywhere you go. Dogs even have human lovers yet some of us are doomed to suffer alone for nothing.