Is it normal that i want to have a very possessive and loyal boyfriend?
I just want to know.Most of my friends said it wasn't normal.But I want to get out of the box and ask more people about it.
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I just want to know.Most of my friends said it wasn't normal.But I want to get out of the box and ask more people about it.
I've had a couple of those.
On the extreme end, they can turn out to be abusive. Sometimes, it's due to their pure malice and other times it's due to such strong emotions causing a lack of impulse control. My car took some heavy damage and I could have been killed due to the last one. Sadly, I believe that he did not intend to harm me and he did everything in his power to correct what he did wrong but righting a wrong doesn't change the fact that the wrong was done in the first place, especially of that caliber. I'm still dealing with the financial and legal ramifications of his actions but in all fairness, it has only been a couple of months.
On the more harmless end, should you ever choose to make independent decisions, said possessive boyfriend can bring them to a screeching halt with his constant need and desire for affirmation. Essentially, having such a possessive boyfriend will make it nearly impossible for you to lead any sort of independent life.
You're wishing for a relationship based on codependency and there isn't enough time in the day to write about how easily this could fuck up you, your life, your relationships and him but that's why they sell books on the matter. Best of luck to you. Remember that possessiveness is not a necessary trait for a loyal boyfriend.
Theyre probably saying it's not normal because possessive people can get really dangerous. My boyfriend once dated a possessive person, and she tried to stab him.