well, do tell him that you acknowledge he is working, but that does not help _YOU_ if you miss spending time with him.
If you had no feelings for him whatsoever, you would already be gone, courage or not.
You could try the following: If he really believes he is not addicted, then it should not be a problem to "stop". Make a bet with him, that he cannot go for even a month(or 2 weeks, if thats too high) without ANY gaming. If YOU win, he admits that he is addicted and tries to change. If HE wins, you will stop trying to change him and no longer bugger him about it.
The trick is: In this month/2 weeks, he will need to spend a lot of time with you, a good chance to re-kindle your relationship-fire, and to etablish "ceremonies" together that you could continue afterwards. If all fails, you can still look to leave him afterwards...you never promised to accept it, only to stop trying to change him/bugger him...which is all true if you leave.
If he refuses the bet outright, claim that he _IS_ addicted, and even if he doesn't "need to prove something" to himself, you want him to "prove it to you", because you do feel neglected and that he IS addicted.
Is it normal that I want to give away my husband?
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well, do tell him that you acknowledge he is working, but that does not help _YOU_ if you miss spending time with him.
If you had no feelings for him whatsoever, you would already be gone, courage or not.
You could try the following: If he really believes he is not addicted, then it should not be a problem to "stop". Make a bet with him, that he cannot go for even a month(or 2 weeks, if thats too high) without ANY gaming. If YOU win, he admits that he is addicted and tries to change. If HE wins, you will stop trying to change him and no longer bugger him about it.
The trick is: In this month/2 weeks, he will need to spend a lot of time with you, a good chance to re-kindle your relationship-fire, and to etablish "ceremonies" together that you could continue afterwards. If all fails, you can still look to leave him afterwards...you never promised to accept it, only to stop trying to change him/bugger him...which is all true if you leave.
If he refuses the bet outright, claim that he _IS_ addicted, and even if he doesn't "need to prove something" to himself, you want him to "prove it to you", because you do feel neglected and that he IS addicted.