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my girlfriend went to a party on our one year anniversary, and when she was there she got drunk and cheated on me. I know she was drunk and she wouldn't have done it otherwise.. me an her have been together for a year and we are so in love..
so is it normal that I want to forgive her and make things better between us?
A woman puts herself on that position. Nobody forces her to drink at a party, or to get drunk. And excuse me, but bleach_baby, if you cheat at all you're out the fuckin door. Some of us choose partners that they trust and respect. Evidently you're the minority here.
Furthermore, I find it highly disagreeable that a majority of women will frown upon promiscuous behavior, only to turn around, get plastered, and cheat on her bf. As a male, I revel in the fact that I've had sex with many women. Filthy nasty scary sex. As soon as you women quit treating your vaginas like they're the Holy Womb, maybe there won't be such a glaring double standard when it comes to sex. Think like a man and let's do this thing.
Lastly, dump the bitch. She put herself in that position, proceeded to get the pipe laid to her and violate you relationship. There is no forgivness for that behavior. Move on and find someone you can trust, and who can also give you the same amount of respect you give her.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your relationship wondering if she's cheating on you again? The trust factor is already been broken. Of course you want to forgive her but if you stay with her, you will never be able to fully trust her again. How can you have a meaningful relationship with someone you can't fully trust? Being drunk is no excuse, unless you were passed out and raped.
Is this the same person who asked if it was normal for their girlfriend to go to a sleepover party with guys on their 1yr anniversary? If it is, she knew beforehand guys were gonna be there and she still went so it sounds planned and break up with her stankass! If its not, if she is willing to cheat after only a year; do you feel like this is a sustainable relationship and she wont ever do it again? The answer is within yourself.
I think it is the same person too. Interesting turn of events.
Given that this is a long distance relationship..it's all about honesty and trust, of which she broke. Well not honesty unless you had to find it out from others...
I would say you are fairly normal to WANT to forgive her, but just ask yourself if its worth it and whether this relationship is going anywhere.
My ex wife went to a party without me before we were married. She had a little bit too much to drink and started teasing the guys. After she let them strip her, it was only a matter of time before they were going to F her. She told me they raped her but after hearing what went on, she wanted and needed a cock that night. Since I wasn't there, 5 guys satisfied her a number times while she remained naked for 10 hours.
unlike many of the above posters, i think it's really nice of you to want to give a second chance. If she truly loves you she should feel ashamed and depressed over her error, if her guilt is genuine I think there's faith she won't ever let it happen again. However, if it does, id have to say my advice would be to move on from her, because she is selfish and has a serious comitment problem, or just a serious whore problem, either way.
I think the people saying no you shoudn't try to make it work are immature. People do get drunk and make terrible mistakes. As long as she told you a\bout it, was very apologetic and is taking steps to ensure it doesnt happen again (eg not drinking so much) then if your relationship is worth it, you should forgive her
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Anyway, she will do it again. If u forgive her now then she will do it again because she thinks you will let her off the hook again. Nobody is worth this. She can't be trusted and did something wrong. I don't care if she is drunk, you can still control yourself. What kind of person cheats in someone who they supposedly love?