Is it normal that i want to disappear after i die?

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When I die, I want: no funeral or obituary, my body to be donated to science anonymously, all my belongings thrown out, donated or sold(to pay off debts), to have my schoolwork, writings, art, anything I had made during my lifetime and photos of me burned, my digital existence deleted (email, Facebook, computer files, ect) and use all my remaining assets to pay off my debt, basically erase as much of my earthly presence as legally possible. I don't want to burden my family's lives with my affairs when I die.

I'm not depressed, upset or suicidal. I just feel that, when death happens, to leave as little earthly baggage as possible, to just quietly disappear into time, would be the most liberating death.

Is this normal?

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Based on 48 votes (29 yes)
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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago

    I say it's normal to feel that way - just remember that funerals are really for the living - the people who loved you in life still love you in death and may need a funeral or gathering of sorts to mourn their loss constructively while celebrating your life. Just something to consider.

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  • rico30
    13 years ago

    To live on in memories, replayed in the minds of people you once knew.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I would have been at the funeral of a friend on Tuesday but he decided he didn't want one, and that he just wants to be buried in a cardboard coffin and then have a simple gathering afterwards with a few drinks and something to eat.

    Whether or not I agree (in his case, I do), I think the most important thing is respecting the wishes of the dead.

    You may perhaps change your mind about your wishes when you meet someone and perhaps have a family and extended family of your own. But whatever you wish, I hope it gets respected.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Love the idea. I'm the same way and plan on donating my body to the body farm.

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  • DwayneHicks
    13 years ago

    I can see where you are coming from. When I die I don't want a big deal of it. I much would rather people live there happy lives and not worry about anything that was mine.

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