Is it normal that i want to become good at sex....

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before i lose my virginity. I just dont want to be a lousy lay, even if it is my first time. And it just interests me when i read about ways that can make you better at it. I guess what i want is that when i do start having sex, i want it to be great sex and to please the guy and make him glad hes with me. I'm naturally submissive and i'd really like to please to guy. I'm open to things like roleplay and costumes and toys.
I just want to do my best and skip the awkward stage, because i feel that being a virgin at my age, im missing out on alot of learning and experience.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna jump into bed with some douchbag just because i'm horny. Or ruin a decent relationship by having sex too soon. I just want to be really good at it when the time comes and im comfortable enough and have someone to have it with.

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  • PumpkinKate
    11 years ago | pl

    With your mentality, attitude, and desire to be good - trust me. You are ALREADY leagues better than many sexual partners.

    Try watching sensual or erotic porn. It's difficult to find, but there are some videos that are done by amateurs who are genuinely in love, and some that are specifically made to show genuine love-making. The sort of stuff you see might help give you an idea. Also reading well-written erotic literature is a good idea, if you have a visual mind and can picture the acts they describe. Mostly though, it will be about having fun and making each other happy! Believe me you will do GREAT!

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  • Pisslan616
    11 years ago | pl

    I sorta hope if I lose my virginity it will be to another virgin so if we are both crap we both won't notice the difference.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    Speaking as a man, there are no special techniques the female partner needs to know. It's less about what you do and more about how you approach it. Fear of enjoying yourself is a bit of a turn off. Those people who just lie there because they're afraid of doing something wrong. There is no right and wrong. What works varies from couple to couple. It's about not being afraid to explore, to communicate, and to show what you enjoy.

    Personally, I think you'll be okay as long as you don't overthink it. Go with what feels right, rather than what you've revised.

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  • flutterhigh
    11 years ago | pl

    Make out with your fist. It's basically the same thing.

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