So, not only are you in a long distance relationship, you're in an abusive relationship.
Of course there are others who feel this way. Masochism was one of the very first aberrant behaviours identified in the early years of psychology.
It's your life and you get to decide how you should live it and who you should spend it with, but if you feel uncomfortable with how the guy treats you after the event, then you really should try to identify why you get a buzz off it at the time. What he does clearly gratifies some need of yours.
The reasons people are masochistic are complicated and varied, but many masochists grew up with parents who were demanding and controlling and whose love was conditional on the child doing exactly what was expected of them. Emotional and physical abuse was also often involved, and the child was conditioned to believe that this was a normal way for people to express affection and care. People like that often end up with a bullying inner critic. When someone else abuses them, it confirms their negative view of themselves, and so just feels right.
People who are regularly verbally abusive often progress to physical violence. Obviously, this isn't possible in your LDR, but when the guy is disrespectful and you just take it rather than telling him what he's doing is wrong, disconnecting and leaving it to him to come back an apologise, you're giving him the message that you like to be abused, so he'll keep doing it and that will be in his mind when you do meet.
IIN that i want to be mistreated?
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So, not only are you in a long distance relationship, you're in an abusive relationship.
Of course there are others who feel this way. Masochism was one of the very first aberrant behaviours identified in the early years of psychology.
It's your life and you get to decide how you should live it and who you should spend it with, but if you feel uncomfortable with how the guy treats you after the event, then you really should try to identify why you get a buzz off it at the time. What he does clearly gratifies some need of yours.
The reasons people are masochistic are complicated and varied, but many masochists grew up with parents who were demanding and controlling and whose love was conditional on the child doing exactly what was expected of them. Emotional and physical abuse was also often involved, and the child was conditioned to believe that this was a normal way for people to express affection and care. People like that often end up with a bullying inner critic. When someone else abuses them, it confirms their negative view of themselves, and so just feels right.
People who are regularly verbally abusive often progress to physical violence. Obviously, this isn't possible in your LDR, but when the guy is disrespectful and you just take it rather than telling him what he's doing is wrong, disconnecting and leaving it to him to come back an apologise, you're giving him the message that you like to be abused, so he'll keep doing it and that will be in his mind when you do meet.