Is it normal that i want to be better than everybody?

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I have this problem with every single person that's better than me. I can't stand it. Everytime i see someone that is better than me i get jealous and become sad, i feel like i failed. Deep inside i want them to fail, so i can become better! It's everything, especially technology. I love to learn about computers and programming, it's my passion! But when i see someone that's better than me and especially in a young age i can't help myself. I get jealous and sometimes even shed a tear because i feel like i failed. When i have exams i almost cry if i get a 7. The only thing i want is 10 & 12. I work extremely hard at home and almost spend all my time on the thing i'm not satisfied with and it's destroying my life.

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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago | pl

    Trust me, It is all it is cracked up to be.

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  • DADNSCAL
    10 years ago | pl

    You'll drive yourself crazy comparing yourself with others. Be the best YOU can be. Accept who you are, your level of abilities, but never be content. Always strive to be better.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago | pl

    Do you want to be the very best, like no one ever was?
    To catch them as your real test, and train them as your cause?

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago | pl

    There will always be someone better than you at something. Always. That's why comparisons will drive you nuts if you let them. Focus on comparing yourself to yourself; it's the only comparison that truly matters anyway.

    It's not abnormal to want to be the best at something, but truly, in a world with over 7 billion people, "best" is a highly relative term. It's a little corny-sounding, but aim to be the best you that you can be.

    Oh, and as for hoping other people fail, save that for the ones you don't like, not everyone in the world. :)

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    • chron
      10 years ago | pl

      It makes sense. I'll try not to care about everything! The only thing i'm going to try to care about now is who is better than me in technology, IN MY AREA! ^_^

      I love working with computers and i've decided to spend most of my time with computers so i can be the best in my area! :D

      Thanks a lot :)

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      • ProseAthlete
        10 years ago | pl

        That's great; good luck with it, and I'm glad I could offer some cogent advice!

        You can definitely become the local or regional expert, and that can be a huge benefit when it's time to find a job or start an ambitious project. Aim for "best in town" today; there's time enough tomorrow for "best in the world." :)

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        • chron
          10 years ago | pl

          You're absolutely right.

          My goal now is to become the best in town and then the best in my region!

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  • shinji
    6 years ago | pl

    Are you me lol?

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  • Loquaciousd
    10 years ago | pl

    Totally normal, but unhealthy.

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  • Steve92
    10 years ago | pl

    Normal and easy to want, but difficult to do!!!!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago | pl

    I have a challenge for you.

    Get all the trophies/cheevos on super street fighter 4.

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  • alv1592
    10 years ago | pl

    No one is "better" than anyone. God made us all equal. No offense to anyone who doesn't believe in God, but even if there wasn't a God everybody would be born equal.

    Sure some people are more successful than others, but I don't think non-successful people really try. Everybody is capable of making their dreams reality, but you have to try.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    Wear the grudge like a crown

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  • Ramo50
    10 years ago | pl

    First and foremost u have to understand competing in worldly things does not matter. Everything u have been given by God Is a blessing so enjoy it and do what u can, if u make a mistake u are human not meant to be perfect. As for envy that is serious pray to God to protect you from envy because it is serious and will only lead to failure and sadness.

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  • RougeTheBat
    10 years ago | pl

    Ok.You wanna be better?Then be better!Let it motivate you bro!

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  • kingsleycrowne
    10 years ago | pl

    well you sound determined and driven, which is a great motivator and will serve you well in life. But stop comparing yourself with others. Concentrate on personal growth. I think you just have to be more forgiving of yourself and look at everything, including "failures" as experience. Learn from it to make you better next time.

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