Pain is meant to prevent you from doing damage to your body. If you are feeling pain you aren't doing something right, and if you do that while unconscious you could really hurt yourself.
You're muscles probably aren't relaxed enough when you try, it takes practice to get them used to allowing something in the wrong direction. One thing that helps is to lie on your back, legs up instead of doggy style. Another good way to get started is for you to be on top and have him just lie there while you can ease into it yourself.
Oh, and ignore any bullshit you read about "warming up" by putting fingers or toys in there. That just makes you tense up worse, just go for it, pull out when it hurts, wait a few, and try again until it doesn't.
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Pain is meant to prevent you from doing damage to your body. If you are feeling pain you aren't doing something right, and if you do that while unconscious you could really hurt yourself.
You're muscles probably aren't relaxed enough when you try, it takes practice to get them used to allowing something in the wrong direction. One thing that helps is to lie on your back, legs up instead of doggy style. Another good way to get started is for you to be on top and have him just lie there while you can ease into it yourself.
Oh, and ignore any bullshit you read about "warming up" by putting fingers or toys in there. That just makes you tense up worse, just go for it, pull out when it hurts, wait a few, and try again until it doesn't.