Is it normal that i want kinkier sex than my girlfriend

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I am currently living with my girlfriend of 18 months and our sex life as become somewhat stagnant. We just have the same old sex all the time, meaning foreplay, oral, and then vaginal sex. Although she seems happy with this (I don't think this is an assumption), I am bored and am not excited as I used to be.
With other girls I am used to being much more adventurous (s&m, anal, strap-ons, buttplugs, rim jobs, roleplaying, spitting, choking, slapping, and much more).
Is this something our relationship can sustain or should one of us try to make a change?
Thank you in advance for your responses.

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Based on 75 votes (65 yes)
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    9 years ago

    Why don't you try something REALLY risky with her.... and communicate?

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    It's normal for the guy to be a little more adventurous, they generally have a higher sex drive and less social stigma about what they're supposed to like and dislike.

    Your current girlfriend probably has just never been with someone who wanted to try other things. You could talk to her and see if she would want to explore some more. A good way to break the ice is talk her Into going to a sex shop with you and picking out some toys she's comfortable with, then later asking if she would be open to trying some other things with you.

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  • ㅤㅤㅤ
    9 years ago

    Well, tell her what you want and see if she's willing to experiment :) Who knows, she might like it, too.

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    • ajsm1066
      9 years ago

      She knows, she's just doesn't seem interested. She will experiment but is too frigid to says whether she likes it or not and it's hard to be the only person doing anything.

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  • magic7
    6 years ago

    There are vanilla women out there that won’t change much. Find a more compatible women into BDSM and female domination.

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  • babara7246
    9 years ago

    If you can't be honest with her and get what you want just go on your way, you both deserve to be with someone you want to be with possibly forever, this relationship will not last because eventually you will cheat and really hurt her. Find someone you are more compatable with in every way.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    my man used to be the same as you and then he started buying me sex toys, dildos, strap ons, butt plugs. He would really focus on my clit to the point that it would grow larger and turn me into a horny maniac. I must say it worked.

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