Is it normal that i want him to do something wrong?

My bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. He is supportive, kind, gets along well with my friends and family, never argues with me, says he loves me all the time. He has a steady career, the sex is lovely, he has a great sense of humor, and these are just a few things from the long list of things that are wonderful about him(believe me I could go on for days). I feel like I'm ungreatful but sometimes I find myself trying to see something wrong with him or wishing that he had some sort of flaw. I love him so much & I don't understand why I feel this way. Is it normal and why is it happening?

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  • lovelyfeathers818

    He has flaws, I'm sure, but there's no use trying to find them. What will they prove? Will you love him any less for them? I doubt it, so I say appreciate the rare gem of a man you have! Most women would kill for that. =)

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  • Juanita023

    I can kind of understand where you're coming from. There's a lot of jerks out there, so when you finally come across a good guy, it may seem weird because that's not what you're used to. He's such a good guy that it seems too good to be true. Well, all I can say is not to worry so much and just enjoy what you have, but still be careful because relationships are unpredictable. Even the good ones.

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  • Ribbit.

    why do you want a flaw? Stop thinking so muchh

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  • LiamHale

    Yeah, it's normal. But just 'cause it's normal doesn't make it right. If he's that great and you love him then stop thinking so hard!

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  • norm

    Ok guys, here's the proof of what we have long suspected...

    No matter what you do, she will NOT be satisfied or content. She is simply not capable. Even if you were able to achieve perfection, she will then yearn for flaws you don't have.

    Give us a freakin' break. Get some help.

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  • bexico5

    It is normal, the need for thrill.. But careful, i said the same and then i had problems! Just be happy with ur perfect bf

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  • fullmetaljo

    it's not wrong to want to see bad or good qualities in people, it's actually a defense mechanism people use to deal with for example; an unhealthy relationship. in your case you probably feel insecure around this "perfect person" and you're trying to find a way to excuse these feelings.

    the truth is we're all human here (or most of us) and we're all flawed in our own ways, so don't be discouraged, just love him for who he is and try and accept yourself for you are.

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  • luvlieNESSxx

    Alright so being the girl that I am , Im going to suggest that it is BEYOND normal - a Sex in the City episode has been made where Carrie needed a flaw in her man because he was TOO perfect - Taylor Swift has written a song about the same situation - so being that it's in the media - enough girls have had this problem. You NEED to stop looking for flaws , realize alot of girls would KILL to be in your spot , stop stressing and be yourself! There's clearly a reason the same guy you fell for is still in love with you almost 3yrs later.

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  • deepthought33

    It almost sounds like you're worried that IF you ever wanted to get out of the relationship you would never be able to find an excuse to do so because of him. I'm not saying you want to leave him but when you run into someone that is THAT great it probably has a "forever" feel to it which could freak out even the most stable person if they aren't quite ready for forever.
    So now you're trying to find flaws in him so that, just in case, you could find a reason to hate him.
    It also seems possible that you see him as so perfect that you're not sure how you could possibly live up to those standards yourself. If he is with you and he loves you then there is surely a good reason. Don't be too concerned though. Just let your brain work it all out as it will.

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  • Bman

    You sound jealous that he almost in a way "perfect"

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  • ayanami1234

    Normal. Quite looking for flaws and enjoy what you have. It was mentioned before, he does have flaws I'm sure. But the fact that none of his seemed to have been flagged by you so far, means that they are probably something you have accepted. That is great!

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  • Echoes

    Sorry but you're only bitching. Some women would kill to get a man like that. WOMEN!!!!!

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