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I dont know why but I'v always wanted a baby really bad. I got desperate a few years ago and tried to sleep with people so i could get pregnant. but i never ended up sleeping with anyone. I don't know why but i feel that if i don't get a baby soon then I'll like get super depressed and probably do something stupid that I'll regret. Please help. I suffer from this every day. And sometimes break down because of it. Please don't be mean.
Once you become a parent, you're a parent for life. Children are a major commitment, financially, emotionally, and in terms of your freedom to do as you please. On the other hand, they can become the central focus of your life plan when they're young and also during their adult years.
Is it just instinct? We are preprogrammed to want children. It is just nature at work. Having a family can make you feel like you are doing what is natural. Try listing the pros and cons and then balance instinct with the practical points you need to consider.
Can you afford it? Raising a child is expensive. Look long and hard at your finances and work out how you'll manage. It might be better to wait and try to save, or you might decide to go ahead and manage somehow. There is no right answer.
I started wanting a baby at 16. I even lied to my ex!-fiance and told him I was on BC. I never got pregnant by him Thank God but I still secretly hoped I got pregnant with every Guy I hooked up with. It did finally happen 3 months after I met my now husband. It was not everything I had dreamed of. Its hard. But I don't regret it in any way.
i know how you feel. ive been wanting a baby since i was 7 years old. obsessed over it since i was 7. by the time i was 12 i realized that i am sterral. ya i felt it then went to the doctor and well, i was right. sterral as an old bone. so i became a nanny. know i am 28 and i have care for dozens of babies, toddlers and school aged kids. woken up for thousands of diapers a year and potty trained enough kids to feel like i run an orphanage. but i love every moment. even when i was 15 and 16, i loved waking up for my niebores babies in the night to feed and diaper. i loved being 18 and potty training quads. i even love being 28 and putting a 2 yr old to bed with all the hugs and kisses. i cant say it is easy for everyone, but it is easy for me. was from the start. even when id get throne up on at 3 am by a sick 3 yr old. still fun to snuggle the little tike till eyes went shut.
To me it's pretty normal for a woman to want a baby and become a mother.. Heck that is what I'm feeling right now.. But having a child is a forever commitment, which isn't a bad thing.. It's just you need to make sure you are financially stable.. Reason why I'm not getting pregnant because me and my fiance aren't financially stable until he's done with his career program.. So just think of it this way.. Just wait, and when you wait for when the time is right, you'll be happy because not only will you be a mother, but you'll be able to afford toys/etc so your child has a good life and is happy too :)
Try IVF? (though that can be expensive too). Depends how old you are - if you're in your 30s then I'd consider IVF, but if you're a lot younger then wait for the right guy, don't just get pregnant in a one-night stand - think of the impact that would have on the child when they get older and ask why they don't have a father.
How would you know? I don't have any kids but I know that I would give up my life for one. And if me and a million other mom, dads, parents are willing to do that. They are worth everything and more. So maybe you should shut up and get a life. And start caring about someone other than you.
fallow your heart but be prepared for consiquenses for every dicision has them. both good and bad. just please do one thing for this 28 yr old nanny of many....dont judge like by what other tell you. help a person with their child and find out for yourself what you think. k? you might love it like i did even at 13 with all those diapers and bottlings and baths, or you might hate getting pooped on and waking up after a long day just for 3 am feeding. please just try it. then youll know if your ready or not. the fact that you want a baby is the best part. that shows you have a heart. a good heart. you just have to know if you have the ability ready or if you need more time to hone your self into the perfect person for the leadership of the family. i was once given a disabled little girl who at 7 years old still needed help going potty, showering, eating. i used to put on my swim suite and just shower with her, so i could hold her and keep her from falling. sometimes she even peed on me in the shower. the same happened when i got in the bath with the twins when they had to go and didnt tell me. i could care less cause i dont find it gross but you gotta be sure you can handle it. when kids are sick, the perfect world you see on tv or at the park goes to hell. you even have to learn to trick them into eating healthy. and you need to study on medical health too. most parents dont even know how much water a child should have through the day to keep from getting dehydrated and cant even tell when their child is ready for 911 until the chidl passes out from lack of hydration. please just go out and become a sitter so you can be sure. love ya kid.
Get the book: Taking charge of your Fertility. It's on amazon, and takes away all the mystery around getting pregnant, and menstrual cycles. Apparently women aren't fertile all the time like men, just when they ovulate. It also has tips how to aim for a boy or girl. I would highly recommend it to any woman!
Also, I have four children, and plan on having more. I'm a complete baby addict! They are the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me! I wish everyone loved children like we do. Good luck!
She never said her age. Ppl like you who jump to assumptions don't help anything. This isn't math.a negative plus a negative actual equals a negative when you jump to your your own assumptions. She said everything I feel myself and I not a teen and happily married. You guys should not assume everyone women/girl wants to be a teen mom. This isn't Murray. Some women want a baby because of strong feelings for whatever reason. try not to to jump to conclusions so fast