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I am 22 years old, never been in a relationship because i never had a boyfriend, but i have the strong urge to have a baby. i want to be able to have one and love it. i just want to be able to have someone to love me for who i am.
is that normal?
Yes it is normal every human wants to love and feel loved and needed but a baby is not the answer , it's not just lots of loving cuddles and endless fun moments it truley is the hardest & most expensive job and at times frustrating and tiresome and also thankless (wen your screaming child throws a tantrum in the store hating you because you won't let them be sick on lollys and everyone looks at you like your a bad mum ;) and it's much harder on your own without the support and help. don't get me wrong it's also the best thing you will ever do and the love you feel for your kids is such a beautiful thing I'd never want to change being a mum I love every minute but this is not ur answer I'm a 25 yr old mum of 2 after leaving my abusive ex and my kids are my
World but having kids can be very isolating and you don't get time to go out and meet others . It's a wonderful experience with a loving
Partner or/& at the right time and you have years to come ! I want 10 kids I won't have anymore until i'm with a secure realationship it what's fair for me & kids. Before my kids I went out did classes and hobbies and made lots of friends and I doted on my cats and pets they give alot of love especially sheltar animals who need saving! Good luck!!
No it's not normal. I'm sick of all these irresponsible women popping out babies left and right when none of them are stable financially or even homewise. It's discusting that too many are breeding more morons because they are too lazy to get on birth control and think it's up to the guy to use a condom. Be responsible and wait until you are engaged or married to have a child. Don't be stupid like most teenagers out there.
im the same age as you i think you just want to fuck because i know this one girl like you and she did have a baby and doesn't want to deal with it and all at first she was wanting to have one and now she did & doesn't want to deal with the baby she don't care witch kind of dippers she gets for it she lives in her moms moms dirty ass house that stinks like hell so i really don't think you want a baby
Wow, you sound just like my fiance "Loverofbunnies" (http://isitnormal.com/people/loverofbunnies/ - for her profile)
I am her first "everything" and before me, nobody even paid any attention to her, like you stated about you. Well, I spent time with her to get to know her and I truly bring joy to her day.
Well, after two years and me quitting a well paying job but shitty toward me to go to school and now with me becoming a tax preparer, she wants to get pregnant. I think deep down she has the same feeling as you do about having something love YOU back and I understand. I used to be extremely overweight and I know how it feels to be unwanted. (I'm not calling you fat, I'm just stating I understand.)
I think the thing is that I believe you need to be happy with yourself first. You need to be more open as guys tend to not ask just any girl out out of a fear of "rejection" and those they do, tend to be more physically pretty than inner-pretty.
However, you should get out and meet people and do not be afraid to ask a guy out. We are just as afraid of rejection as women are and are often afraid to ask out of fear of the stupid "games" people play with this. As you sound, more or less in your own words, not toward the "top end" of the attraction scale, people will not usually pay attention to you so like a used car, you are going to have to advertise yourself some.
Also, don't go after the same ten guys that all the women around you drool over, go with the guy that is great inside but nobody pays attention to because he isn't an "athlete" or "whatever." For instance, I am marrying my best friend, not the hottest girl I could have been with.
And I am truly happy with this decision.
here's the thing. i have met guys who i thought i had a chance with, but when i bring up the topic, they say that their not looking for a relationship, which breaks my heart. and i have tried to ask them out and i keep getting rejected. it makes me feel like i cant do anything because of what they say.