Is it normal that i threw up when my twin had sex?

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My twin and I recently got separated since we went to different unis. She called me today morning saying she had sex a week ago, losing her virginity. I'm still a virgin. After she told me, I went to the bathroom and I threw up. Now I'm not hungry at all and I'm sad and I feel weird. Plus she waited a week to tell me?

is it normal to feel like this / throw up?

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    You telepathically got pregnant.

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  • ravenna
    11 years ago

    I'm not a twin myself, but I think a lot of non-twins might not be getting the "bond" that twins have. While it is unfortunate that your twin broke your "bond", OP, this might be a difficult problem to get help with.

    The most I can offer: It's going to be okay. Time goes on. Try to focus on YOURSELF and not her for just a little while.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thank you :)

      I know, I guess I have to get over it. It's not that bad, but It still scares me. I know she's not gonna be different with me just because i'm a virgin, but, i still dislike it, I feel slow and worse I guess.

      I just got so scared when I realised I was puking. I felt like crap, it's not a nice thing to do, if your twin and genuinely best friend has just done something that she's so happy about.

      I don't really know why I threw up. It was, knowing it, hanging the phone, and running to the bathroom. I couldn't help it, it was my body, I don't know :(

      But thank you so muchh

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  • The_sauce_boss
    11 years ago

    If I get really upset I throw up, so I guess you might be the same :)

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  • spidercrowblaze18762
    11 years ago

    ..............

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Wow... why is everyone saying you're jealous...? I'm not a twin, but I understand you might have had a deep bond. I wouldn't have gone so far to throw up over it but...

    Yeah, your bond was broken, your trust was betrayed, and you're not as close as you used to be. You're just mourning that. Don't dwell on it and you'll be okay. It's possible that you just want to feel that connection with someone else too, but don't rush out and give it up to the first guy you meet. Make or hang out with some friends. Take care of yourself and your emotional well-being while you learn to live on your own. Still talk to your sister though; don't cut her off.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      First of all, thank you!
      Second, I really don't know why I threw up. It wasn't on purpose, I just suddenly felt like vomiting, I felt this weird feeling you get in your throat. You think it's so sick?
      And well, I really won't give my virginity to the first guy I like. But the thing is that I'm quite busy with uni whereas she has loads of free time, so she gets to go out a lot and I don't. But I'll try to go out as much as I can. (And even if it is bad, talk to a guy and whatnot -not sex or anything like that- to make me think i'm also worth it)
      I haven't been talking 24/7 to her these days, which is so weird to me. Some years ago I couldn't have even imagined that I would spend more than 5 hours without talking to her. (when we're not asleep, of course). But yes, I still talk to her don't worry :) It's not that she has done anything wrong, I know that! :D
      Thanks TumbleStar :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Jealousy?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I guess

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        No need to be jealous, considering you are twins, and your twin had sex, it means you are just as likely to have sex.
        Your time will come.

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        • myownopinions
          11 years ago

          Unless they're fraternal.

          What type of twin are you OP?

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            Yeah, I was going to mention that, but I didn't know the official name for it like you obviously do. Lol.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              we're fraternal which means we're not identical but people do say we do look alike.

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  • manii92
    11 years ago

    Umm..?
    Idk what's wrong actually

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You feel disconnected. Please get over it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I can't. I am scared to talk to her... I've always talked about my problems only to her. Now I feel so lost and alone.

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        I always say that if you cannot speak then write but don't be cautious not to hurt her feeling and make her feel guilty. You need not feel alone , you should ask her how it was and make her feel good. Don't be rude

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        • rabbit-tongue
          7 years ago

          "Please get over it" is really rude. You're already assuming she's going to be rude.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          I know I should. I actually told her I would write an email because people were around and I couldn't go talking about that. I will be nice and seem interested in it, although I don't think I will be able to read any detail about it without puking. And we always tell each other everything, all details. (I'm shaking right now too). But yes, thanks

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  • oilyhuman
    11 years ago

    I think you should focus all your concentration on college to prepare for the future, and of course, get laid.

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  • MaryPoppins04
    11 years ago

    maybe you hate sex...maybeee and your body feels like you had sex cuz it was your twin doing it and its like yorself or your duplicate to your mind and body

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  • Noooo
    11 years ago

    It sound to me like u need a new bff and soon

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  • Sia327
    11 years ago

    Honey bun talk to her it's simple. Also you probably threw up cuz if you guys are identical that must have been a disturbing image you got or you just miss her. Don't over complicate things just talk.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    You feel disconnected, your bond is instable.

    In other words, you need to synchronize.

    Go out, lose your virginity too, meet up with your twin and drink some champagne to celebrate, then enjoy the good life.

    PS: This may sound weird, but honestly i believe it would work out great for you. In other words, i'm not trolling you, just suggesting drastic measures.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'm gonna go out this weekend but I do not dare to lose my virginity to the first guy who asks me. Hehe but thank you for your reply! :)

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    why are you more 'alone' now that your sibling had sex.

    why does it even concern you what she does between her legs?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      it's not alone alone, it's just.... i need to speak to her about everything and now to be honest, i'm feeling like I can't talk to her about guys at the moment, which is stupid, but, i'm scared. i dont know. i can't even be happy for her. i'm a very bad sister and this even makes me feel worse.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        honestly it just sounds like you're a bit jealous.

        she's giving someone else attention.

        if anything tho it doesn't mean you can't talk to her about guys. she's not going to stop loving you just because she has someone new in her life

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Well, thanks. I guess you're right. I find it hard to say it aloud, but I guess I did feel jealous just because she was giving another person more attention than she's giving me.

          I find it weird that there's something different about us. We had our first kiss the same night so...

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            11 years ago

            why don't you talk to her about it?

            you may find that she takes more time to talk to you and reassure you of your familial bond.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              I will try. But, you know, she took a week to tell me. I could sense by her voice that something was wrong. I did THINK she had had sex. I don't know why but I thought it, but I was too scared my thoughts were true and I didn't want to ask. But after a week of torturing myself thinking she had had sex, i said "isn't there something you want to tell me?" so she said it. So it makes me think that maybe she didn't wanna tell me.
              Although this makes no sense to me? She tells me everything! (As far as I know) I guess she was just scared of my reaction.
              Like, ages ago, when I had my first kiss, I went straight away to tell her. Hours after it, she came straight to tell me that guy had kissed her too. I wonder if my subconscious mind hoped that this would happen again with sex? It's quite stupid lols

              Our bond is alright. We are still calling everyday and talking quite a lot, but i'm just avoiding talking about guys at the moment. but i really should get over it, right? Although It's just feels i'm never ever gonna have sex.

              By the way, thank you so much for your replies they're helping me a lot i appreciate them so much. Reading what you guys think makes me feel better.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    maybe she was giving someone a blow job at the time and you just puked

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      11 years ago

      funny but ... the OP puked after finding out, not during

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  • kr24
    11 years ago

    You clearly have jealousy issues. Get laid for Christ's sake.

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    • rabbit-tongue
      7 years ago

      You have a pessimism issue. Clearly you have never met a jealous person or been jealous of someone else, because the physical sickness of having a bond broken is NOT one of them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      It's not that easy...

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      11 years ago

      i'm thinking you're hitting the nail on the head with that one.

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      • rabbit-tongue
        7 years ago

        if she was jealous she would have said so. You guys have a really pessimistic view. Jealous people emit way more different symptoms than this. It's like motion sickness. Her world view got a bit skewed as her sister distanced herself sexually, which is a big difference between them now.

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