Is it normal that i think that i'm not going to get older than 20

I never really thought about the future because i always thought it never was going to happen. I always had the feeling that when i will reach a certain age, around 20 years old something life changing would happen to me. I always had the feeling that it was death because i never was and i still am not able to look past that point, to plan ahead for when i get to that age. This thought of mine is actually a nuisance to me because if i think that i won't get to that age i also won't do anything to hone my skills, i don't have a motivation to guide me.

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  • RoseIsabella

    What we believe or feel will happen and what actually does happen are two different things. When I was young I used to think I wouldn't live past 30 but now I'm 43 years old. I know it's hard but try not to let your actions be led by your emotions.

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    • I bet you are a wilf

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      • IsitUnique

        more like gilf.

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        • **Blows heavy load**

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    I'm 23. I sure haven't changed much since I was 18.
    You always stay the same person. Sometimes I feel like everyone else my age has become a real adult and I'm just faking it. But really most peoples character stays the same, they just seem to change when they are confronted with more responsibility.
    You know what felt different the day after my 20th birthday?
    Nothing.

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    • Holzman_67

      Really? My whole world, perspective and outlook changed dramatically after I turned 20. That was the most significant birthday of my life.
      Everybody is different I guess

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  • youareaghost

    Your brain just isn't developed enough to see the future. Planning ahead is not something teens do autonomously, because teens simply see the future as an unknown cloud. You don't have perspective. How could you?

    When you reach twenty, you'll see that you still feel like a kitten when you look at the other "adults" around you. When you're 34, you'll see, you'll look at the other parents as if they are more mature than you. When you're 75, you'll see, you still feel like you are growing up.

    I'm 22 now, and consider myself a grown woman. I haven't accomplished much. I haven't had kids. I don't own stocks, businesses, a home, a car, or anything. I know from the information imparted to me that...no matter how old you are there is always 'a child' inside, or in other words, something that is becoming. Everyone is always becoming someone based on the small daily choices they make.

    What you're talking about is fear of becoming. You are very unsure of who you are, and therefore who you want to be. That's okay. It's so normal! It's part of your development as a human. Not choosing what to do with yourself is also, by the way, a choice.

    Motivation is not an object you can get. Motivation is inside of you. It's already there. You already have it. You just have to find the things you like to get it going. It's a lifetime process.

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    • Lode1203

      Thanks, this really helped me alot.

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      • youareaghost

        I'm so glad:)

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    • Holzman_67

      Well put.

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  • Holzman_67

    Text addicts are morons. There's too many morons in the world but you can't call them morons as to them you may be a moron yourself. The hypothesis outweighs the means.

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  • Hamid37USA

    I no like motaviation to. When need motaviation. I go marketing at shop. There I buy new wife to do motaviation for me.

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  • loopoo

    I'm 19, 20 in 2 months. I know how you feel, it seems like an age where you should have everything in place, its scary.

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    • Not even close. I thought that when I was 20. I'm 45 now. Take your time and make conscious decisions.

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  • Shnaz

    You might not.

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  • Mersaphe

    I know that feeling. Like others have said, I don't feel like the person inside me has changed over the years, only the number that I call my age.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I have a similar thing, except my 'end age' is 38, which thinking about it is an oddly specific number.

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  • Holzman_67

    I feel I will die soon I feel like death is stalking me

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    • I thought that for 20 years...yet I'm still here.

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      • Holzman_67

        Death got lazy

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        • No. Reason overpowered death when I realized how important life is...no matter how much I deny it.

          When my sons locked eyes with me as they defied reason, when I hold my little girl who's depending on a masculine figure for a roll model, when I play catch with them, and when my oldest wonders how the fuck he's going to make it through college... It dawned on me...life is bigger than me. How arrogant could I possibly be to question this gift, and threaten to extinguish it? It's not about me. It's about the gift of "me" that's been given to others...however flawed.

          Life is bigger than you. It's bigger than me. We're here for a reason... regardless of weather you or I want to admit it.

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          • Holzman_67

            You're talking about suicide now, I was talking about involuntary death. We are on different pages here.

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            • I know...I thought about that after I posted it. Sorry.

              There have been a lot of suicide posts recently, and when I went back through my notifications, I didn't look deep enough and was already in that mode.

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  • jeebley

    Don't go honing skills. Be a loser; its real fun mostly.

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  • MissDethstar

    I felt like that in my teenage and i acted accordingly...which means i didn't plan anything and didn't have any idea where i was going. The future was like a blank space in my head, i thought i would die or i'd just follow the flow of life and find what i truly want one day. Didn't happen, i would not recommend it but i know the feeling.

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  • shiznit

    Hey don't think negatively. Just live your life to the fullest and be happy. Go to church and pray/ ask for forgiveness of sin. Be in good spiritual terms, some people think that way so yeah it's normal....

    Make your loved ones aware of how you think, they will be the best support. Ask them to listen and make sure they listen to you not just hear you and ignore you. The more you talk the easier it is too understand why you feel that way.

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