It depends on the rules. If you're living with someone as an adult, you need to respect that person as a competent adult. Granted a hard transition for parents is when their kids go to college and they start being their own person.
Letting go is hard, and my parents admitted this after we got in a fight because they were paying for my college. I was an adult living in the dorms, but they thought they should still have a say in my schedule, my religion, my boyfriends, etc.. because they were paying for college. I told them to stop paying and took out my own loans and they no longer had any say in my life.
We all got along much better once they no longer had ammo for a power struggle. They had to be nicer and more open to my life choices if they wanted to maintain a good relationship with me. We learned to agree to disagree. Also, after things settled down, my parents gave me no strings attached money each month to help me buy food and pay rent. That certainly helped smooth things over.
IIN that I think that family issues are not resolved by "moving out"?
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It depends on the rules. If you're living with someone as an adult, you need to respect that person as a competent adult. Granted a hard transition for parents is when their kids go to college and they start being their own person.
Letting go is hard, and my parents admitted this after we got in a fight because they were paying for my college. I was an adult living in the dorms, but they thought they should still have a say in my schedule, my religion, my boyfriends, etc.. because they were paying for college. I told them to stop paying and took out my own loans and they no longer had any say in my life.
We all got along much better once they no longer had ammo for a power struggle. They had to be nicer and more open to my life choices if they wanted to maintain a good relationship with me. We learned to agree to disagree. Also, after things settled down, my parents gave me no strings attached money each month to help me buy food and pay rent. That certainly helped smooth things over.