I guess we (I) believe that it is a parent's job to prepare our children to leave the "nest" and become independent. Few of us want to continue living together after our children get to a certain age, but I'd hardly call it throwing them away.
But I can't imagine, even in your society that a, say, 20 year old child, would be allowed to lay about his room all day, playing loud music or video games, then go out partying every night and return at any hour, without contributing anything to the household but his presence. And only for the fact that he is older, be given a say on what goes on in the home. No, I don't believe that if the child gets hooked on meth and steals from the family, that in your society, or any other, the family would embrace him or allow him to have a say in the home.
I'm well aware of how most of the world works, and I believe you have a simplistic view, colored by a functional family. We aren't all lucky enough to have functional families.
What you are confusing here is the "growing up" term. It is not only about changing one number, it is about becoming mature too. Obviously, a 25 year old guy who only does drugs and stays in his room doing nothing all day isn't a grown up man. And as such, he wouldn't have a big voice in a household in my culture.
Unfortunately, my family is not a functional one. But yet, even in the most dysfunctional families around here, it would be seen as cold if you expect child to leave your house when they turn 18. And also, if a parent acts as your "owner" or your "boss", it would also seem sad and weird. I would say that our family relationships are like this: we try to stick together as much as possible, we share and make decisions together, but we give the elders the highest priority in everything.
IIN that I think that family issues are not resolved by "moving out"?
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I guess we (I) believe that it is a parent's job to prepare our children to leave the "nest" and become independent. Few of us want to continue living together after our children get to a certain age, but I'd hardly call it throwing them away.
But I can't imagine, even in your society that a, say, 20 year old child, would be allowed to lay about his room all day, playing loud music or video games, then go out partying every night and return at any hour, without contributing anything to the household but his presence. And only for the fact that he is older, be given a say on what goes on in the home. No, I don't believe that if the child gets hooked on meth and steals from the family, that in your society, or any other, the family would embrace him or allow him to have a say in the home.
I'm well aware of how most of the world works, and I believe you have a simplistic view, colored by a functional family. We aren't all lucky enough to have functional families.
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Well, now that's an exaggerated response...
What you are confusing here is the "growing up" term. It is not only about changing one number, it is about becoming mature too. Obviously, a 25 year old guy who only does drugs and stays in his room doing nothing all day isn't a grown up man. And as such, he wouldn't have a big voice in a household in my culture.
Unfortunately, my family is not a functional one. But yet, even in the most dysfunctional families around here, it would be seen as cold if you expect child to leave your house when they turn 18. And also, if a parent acts as your "owner" or your "boss", it would also seem sad and weird. I would say that our family relationships are like this: we try to stick together as much as possible, we share and make decisions together, but we give the elders the highest priority in everything.
"Meth", "stealing", now that scalated quickly, hahaha