As a person who knows a lot of bisexuals, I'd say a bisexual girl is understood and I'd I do only call "bs" when a guy is "bi".
So yes, you're right, people like myself will believe it is simply a phase with a male and possibly just acting on sexually "fluid" impulses--preferring whatever they find attractive, sexually aroused just by sex, human bodies.
This being, because every bi-guy I've ever known, is now gay/leans way more towards being gay (comes out a year later)
Which is NOT a bad thing. But labels exist, which isn't exactly fair, for some, but it does hold weight pertaining to facts, with a lot of people.
Say a straight guy goes through a phase of enjoying "all kinds" of porn and is aroused by taboo/being with a guy, but would NEVER act on it, is he bi? No, is he into sexually appealing fantasy? Yes. Fantasy is just that.
Now dating/emotional connection, that is different. I have seen girls date both, for a number of years. I have never, ever, seen a guy give the (100% devotion/emotional connection, love, respect for the relationship) to both. I've seen guys have sex with both, maybe "try" to date the girl, but the cheating with men, lingering thoughts and appeal of men ruin the short lived relationship. The connection eventually fails, because his heart is "taken" and emotions are highly affected with men. Love is often confused, so easily. If you date 20 people. 10 men, 10 women, and claim you fell inlove the same way, with every single one, were devoted just as seriously/intensely, to every single one, I will not buy that. Everyone will REALLY fall inlove at least once, if not once for some (soul mates) and it appears the people who have not had that connection, commitment and intense feeling (with someone who felt it just as hard back) are the ones' who are confused. I'm not anti-bi, I am logical. I don't want you to feel attacked. I'm not pulling the statistics, that men are "proven" to be straight or gay and women are proven both, I am going off of experience too. Bisexuals are deemed deviants at times, because it seems "greedy" to ignorant people and in a lot of cases, molestation causes a "taboo" sexual appeal, which is why straight men have often claimed they were aroused by a "perversion-nostalgia", pertaining to what they endured.
Of course the human body, at it's best it appealing in any gender, but it is "bisexual" love, I do not believe exists. You can care for someone, love them like you would any friend/lover, but the intense connection; that is lasting and tolerable for YEARS (not weeks, months) is a different love. When one falls deeply inlove, it is with the gender of their orientation--no bisexual "loves" the same sex/opposite sex, just the same. Sexual gratification and love are not the same.
Is it normal that I think that bisexuals suffer much more than gays?
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As a person who knows a lot of bisexuals, I'd say a bisexual girl is understood and I'd I do only call "bs" when a guy is "bi".
So yes, you're right, people like myself will believe it is simply a phase with a male and possibly just acting on sexually "fluid" impulses--preferring whatever they find attractive, sexually aroused just by sex, human bodies.
This being, because every bi-guy I've ever known, is now gay/leans way more towards being gay (comes out a year later)
Which is NOT a bad thing. But labels exist, which isn't exactly fair, for some, but it does hold weight pertaining to facts, with a lot of people.
Say a straight guy goes through a phase of enjoying "all kinds" of porn and is aroused by taboo/being with a guy, but would NEVER act on it, is he bi? No, is he into sexually appealing fantasy? Yes. Fantasy is just that.
Now dating/emotional connection, that is different. I have seen girls date both, for a number of years. I have never, ever, seen a guy give the (100% devotion/emotional connection, love, respect for the relationship) to both. I've seen guys have sex with both, maybe "try" to date the girl, but the cheating with men, lingering thoughts and appeal of men ruin the short lived relationship. The connection eventually fails, because his heart is "taken" and emotions are highly affected with men. Love is often confused, so easily. If you date 20 people. 10 men, 10 women, and claim you fell inlove the same way, with every single one, were devoted just as seriously/intensely, to every single one, I will not buy that. Everyone will REALLY fall inlove at least once, if not once for some (soul mates) and it appears the people who have not had that connection, commitment and intense feeling (with someone who felt it just as hard back) are the ones' who are confused. I'm not anti-bi, I am logical. I don't want you to feel attacked. I'm not pulling the statistics, that men are "proven" to be straight or gay and women are proven both, I am going off of experience too. Bisexuals are deemed deviants at times, because it seems "greedy" to ignorant people and in a lot of cases, molestation causes a "taboo" sexual appeal, which is why straight men have often claimed they were aroused by a "perversion-nostalgia", pertaining to what they endured.
Of course the human body, at it's best it appealing in any gender, but it is "bisexual" love, I do not believe exists. You can care for someone, love them like you would any friend/lover, but the intense connection; that is lasting and tolerable for YEARS (not weeks, months) is a different love. When one falls deeply inlove, it is with the gender of their orientation--no bisexual "loves" the same sex/opposite sex, just the same. Sexual gratification and love are not the same.