Is it normal that i think i might have been molested as a child ?

Hello,

I am a 24 year-old straight women.
I just started therapy and was asked to do an autobiographical writing exercise of the main events in my life. As I wrote it, I realized that I don't recall much of my childhood, and the things I do recall are a little weird. They make me wonder if I could have been molested. Here are these weird things I remember :

1 - I remember, at 6, asking my baby-sitter if we could spoon for nap time. I remember the look on her face when I asked her that.
2 - At 7, I was playing barbies and all I did was making them have sex. I remember being aroused by this game.
3 - At 8, I had a phase when I kept making sex noises to be funny, with my baby sitter. She would find it weird and asked me where I had learned this. I don't remember my answer.
4 - At 7-8, I remember that I was sleeping at a friend's every monday, because we had soccer together. At night, I would turn every conversation we had into sexual stuff. Like, we would play roles of a couple and talk dirty. I always brought it on, not her. Again, it made me feel aroused.
5 - Since I've started being sexually active (very late, at 22), I found out that I have a fear of intimacy and that I find sex shameful. I feel gross, like if it wasn't right. I can't orgasm with a partner. I struggled with eating disorders and cutting throughout adolescence and early adulthood. I don't like being touched.

The thing is, the only memory I have that I think could be related to molestation is this one. It is quite incomplete :
I remember living in an apartment with my mom. I remember being very afraid in my room, but I don't know why. I think she had a boyfriend at that time but I can't recall his name or face. I don't even remember where was that apartment (and I do recall every other place where I've ever lived). I was between 2 and 6, I think. I recently read a book in which a woman tells her story about child molestation and when she described the abuse, I imagined her in that room (the one where I was afraid). I found it weird.

Do you think this is normal ? Is this just my imagination ? Knowing that I've been molested would sort of be a release, because it would mean that all of my suffering and troubles actually have a rational cause. But I don't want to create false memories. Please, tell me respectfully what you think.
Thanks a lot !

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  • Lonely2

    for most people the growing sexuality of youth resulted in things that looking back on them seem weird...thats what being immature is...not knowing ...or having confused ideas ....most of us had imperfect childhoods and parents or were exposed to dysfunctional people....so I think everyone remebers doing something sexually that they wish they did it differently

    Also you can experience abuse and neglect in any form, not just sexually, and have sexual and relationship problems...in fact very neglected people are often more disturbed than abused people

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  • Ellenna

    I think it's highly possible you were sexually molested, because it would be unusual for a small child to act in such sexual ways otherwise.

    I understand your concerns about the creation of false memories so you need to find a counsellor you can trust.

    I wish you well: personally I found it a huge relief when in middle age and not via counselling I remembered the child sexual abuse I'd experienced, because it helped me make sense of behavior and feelings I hadn't been able to understand before that.

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  • Domino45

    My opinion. I highly doubt you were. You would remember. If you could remember all that at a young age. I'm sure you would have remembered being molested.

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  • benvigil

    I think i was sexually abused when i was a toddler, i witnessed so many sexual things growing up, my parents were the original hippies from the late 60s . Long story short, i'm now a flasher and getting help for it.

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  • CforCourageous

    Interesting. I have very little recollection of my childhood also. But when I talk to other people, they seem to remember alot from their childhood. I'm glad u posted this. I hope u weren't melested

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  • green_boogers

    I was abused by my piano teacher at age 12. Ever since then, I have always liked older women.

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