Is it normal that i think i am way nicer than my friends?

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Is it normal that I consider myself a lot nicer and smarter than many of my friends?? My friends can be mean, simple-minded, judgmental, narcissistic, and vain. I have been constantly trying for many years to be a good person, but it seems like my friends don't even try. They put on a facade like they are great people, but don't feel bad at all when the act in clearly mean ways. It drives me crazy sometimes! Anyone else with similar situations?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago | pl

    I call those types of people ex friends.

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    • Holzman_67
      9 years ago | pl

      My last girlfriend was a stripper. We no longer go out.
      I call her my ex ex ex girlfriend.

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    • candybee
      9 years ago | pl

      haha, if I was a smarter person, I would too.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago | pl

        I don't think you're any less smart than I am. It seems like your situation is complicated quite a bit by the fact that you've got a long term history with these people. Maybe you're afraid of being alone?

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago | pl

          Sometimes my loads smell kind of like bleach.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    I am like you but I have exceptions I respect people who show respect and arent bad people. For the bad people I wont be nice to them or show respect. Keep being a good person the world needs more people like you.

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    • candybee
      9 years ago | pl

      That's a really good way to handle this issue. I am much more cautious around new people I meet because of my experience with my friends. It's so complicated because I don't know who is good or bad anymore.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago | pl

    Don't focus on their negatives. It's not nice either. That's not a judgement but advice. Try to focus on the good that is in them.

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    • candybee
      9 years ago | pl

      I agree with you, but I have tried focusing on their good qualities for 10 years. I have also thought their meanness wasn't that bad and I was just overreacting. I hoped that they would change, but they never do, their meanness just evolves. This has caused me so much stress in my life, and now I think maybe I don't deserve to be around bad people.

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      • Short4Words
        9 years ago | pl

        Sometimes I wonder the same things. But I also wonder if I'm not around who can be a good example?

        I don't think I'm satisfied with either answer yet.

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        • candybee
          9 years ago | pl

          Yeah that's a good point. To clarify a little, it mostly boils down to one friend who I think is very mean, she kinda leads another friend on and they used to call themselves "judging partners". Most people don't see through her because she is very fake and manipulative. I always think she can change if I set the "tone" but her personality completely overrides anyone elses, and I am starting to think she's just a narcissist. I just wish you could experience her for yourself because it's impossible to explain on here. Anyway, it's nice to know that others have similar issues.

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  • hajer
    9 years ago | pl

    that's me xD

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    9 years ago | pl

    I am more mentally stable than a lot of people I know. However it might just be the fact I have sympathy for them and I like surrounding myself with weird people since I find weird/unstable interesting. Maybe that in itself makes me a nut but oh well. In the mad scientist living among the psychos hooray.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago | pl

    No,I'm not like you. I don't think that I'm very nice all the time and I definitely don't do my best to be the best person I can be.

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    • candybee
      9 years ago | pl

      I'm assuming you probably don't have a reason to try. I know God exists which is why I try. I know God is good, and I want to be on God's side as much as possible.. It might sound strange but I want goodness much more than happiness.

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      • kelili
        9 years ago | pl

        I believe that God exists too but I'm just too lazy to try. I'm not very proud of myself now. I will try to do better.

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        • candybee
          9 years ago | pl

          well, you sound more sincere, humble, and nice than most people I know. I think you are a good person.

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