I think you're right to feel whatever religious inspiration you choose, over premarital sex or waiting for marriage. Sorry if I criticized your learning from religion. Your view of romantic relationships as a "game" sounds neat. That's refreshing to view as something you do for fun. People have different perspectives on romantic relationships, so not everyone sees it that way, but it's neat to learn different views. Though, I certainly would not want my boyfriend to think it's ok to cheat on me, for instance. If I agree to be his girlfriend, then I don't want him to treat it so much like a game, that he'll cross my relationship boundaries. Then again, I sympathize with you, from my reverse-sexist point-of-view (Mildly sexist against men, to counter other people's misogyny)- perhaps many guys feel entitled to women/ view women as conquests. If you've found this is true of most guys, or that most guys cheat on you-- I understand why you'd view them as a conquest right back. (I do as well, though I'm single). I don't mean to put words in your mouth, but that's where I could understand your view.
Like your words "If people treated sex as sacred... " It's true, when nobody (or no guy) treats sex as sacred, it does feel disrespectful to me- so I find it hard to have much respect for guys romantically. If your boyfriend is a jerk, hence you're certain he's the type that cheats, I understand wanting to cheat yourself. If it's hard to find guys who are *not* jerks, I can understand deciding you might as well still have fun with them. (I'm just making my own connections to what you said) Other ideas I have- there are other people who prefer open relationships. If you dated one, then you'd be able to talk to him about dating other people- without hurting his feelings. Though, if you don't feel comfortable discussing such-- you could always be friends-with-benefits, instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. I could also understand it being hard to tell most partners, how you'd like your relationship to be fun, like a "game"- since people can be too simple-minded to understand even mildly complex ideas like that.
Is it normal that I think cheating is morally okay?
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I think you're right to feel whatever religious inspiration you choose, over premarital sex or waiting for marriage. Sorry if I criticized your learning from religion. Your view of romantic relationships as a "game" sounds neat. That's refreshing to view as something you do for fun. People have different perspectives on romantic relationships, so not everyone sees it that way, but it's neat to learn different views. Though, I certainly would not want my boyfriend to think it's ok to cheat on me, for instance. If I agree to be his girlfriend, then I don't want him to treat it so much like a game, that he'll cross my relationship boundaries. Then again, I sympathize with you, from my reverse-sexist point-of-view (Mildly sexist against men, to counter other people's misogyny)- perhaps many guys feel entitled to women/ view women as conquests. If you've found this is true of most guys, or that most guys cheat on you-- I understand why you'd view them as a conquest right back. (I do as well, though I'm single). I don't mean to put words in your mouth, but that's where I could understand your view.
Like your words "If people treated sex as sacred... " It's true, when nobody (or no guy) treats sex as sacred, it does feel disrespectful to me- so I find it hard to have much respect for guys romantically. If your boyfriend is a jerk, hence you're certain he's the type that cheats, I understand wanting to cheat yourself. If it's hard to find guys who are *not* jerks, I can understand deciding you might as well still have fun with them. (I'm just making my own connections to what you said) Other ideas I have- there are other people who prefer open relationships. If you dated one, then you'd be able to talk to him about dating other people- without hurting his feelings. Though, if you don't feel comfortable discussing such-- you could always be friends-with-benefits, instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. I could also understand it being hard to tell most partners, how you'd like your relationship to be fun, like a "game"- since people can be too simple-minded to understand even mildly complex ideas like that.