Is it normal that i tense up when my boyfriend fingers me?

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When ever my boyfriend tries to finger me I always tense up and then he can't really finger me, he kind of can but he can't go in far and it hurts like crazy and we end up stopping. It's not that I have a fear of anything entering me because (sorry if this is to much info) I've fingered myself before and all is fine. I don't tense up, but he is the first person to finger me and I always tense up and cannot relax. This has happened about 5 times now and it is getting annoying because I can never get off when we are doing stuff.

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  • Ilovewinter12
    10 years ago

    Maybe fingering isn't for you.
    I've tried fingering before, and I really don't get pleasure from it. I can only orgasm by massaging my clitoris, so maybe you could try that?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    He probably shouldn't be penetrating you with his fingers straight away if it hurts you. Try clitoral stimulation first and work up to penetration. For some girls only clitoral stimulation is pleasurable. You could also try using lube when he fingers you if you haven't already.

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  • TheInfamousStranger
    10 years ago

    Tell him to cut his fingernails.

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