Is it normal that i tend to avoid spending time with my boyfriend?

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Don't get me wrong. I really like him. When I'm with him, I have a ton of fun.
But almost every time he asks if I want to come over, I turn him down. I'm not really sure why. It's...kind of hard to explain. Maybe it's because I spend a ton of time getting ready and I don't want that hassle, when I could just text him or something? I dunno. Any ideas why?

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  • hermione
    11 years ago | pl

    sounds like you cant be bothered with him cause if you had any true feelings for him nothing would keep you away, dump him and find someone who gives you butterflys in your tummy cause honey you aint being fair to your bf

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Agreed. If it's because you are sick of getting all done up then don't. Because if you keep turning him down to hang out he will eventually dump you.

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  • Vvn
    13 years ago | pl

    Absolutely normal, i think. I feel that way sometimes too- like when friends ask me to go out and i just don't feel up to it

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  • jsyk
    13 years ago | pl

    maybe your just getting sick of getting all ready, and you'd rather just feel comfortable, well if you plan on being with him for a while he will eventually have to see you as you are, maybe try just going over there without all the getting ready, then you can just kick back and relax with him, idk might enjoy that more.

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  • pinkperson
    13 years ago | pl

    yes it is completely normal. i don't have a bf but i do know how it is to not wanna spend time with someone but not hate them. that happens to me all the time. don't feel bad or guilty!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Because you go to a lot of trouble to prepare yourself. And you would like him to do something, plan something that makes you feel special.

    You don't want to feel like the daily newspaper, dropped off for someone else's convenience.

    So your bf needs to grow up. And I think you need to challenge him that way.

    People used to date. Not just "hook up." I think there is something to that, the respect, the quality time together... But I'm old fashioned.

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