I believe you have unreal expectations about people and you dont quite get how their heads tick, so you dont see them as equals, with similar problems, hopes, regrets, fears and emotions...thats were the mistrust and avoidance is born ... But people have their own lifes and thoughs too, and not everybody is gonna be able to understand you and be empathic, loyal,authentic, supportive, and nice all at the same time 24/7
In my opinion,is not healthy being totally trustfull around everyone and neither it is to live in complete isolation not trusting anyone. You gotta find some balance between those two extremist choices. Ask yourself this: is all people fake all the time? or maybe you cant read them? maybe both? maybe neither? the world is never black and white, there is not a single solution that solves everything, and thats scary and unconfortable...but we cant live in fear all our lives, just hidden from everyobody, not trusting anybody...
I think, the best way to avoid being dissapointed about people is understanding that nobody is perfect, and nobody owns you anything. You need to learn to be satisfied with yourself, and build a strong sense of selfesteem, and self value...THEN you will be able to be true to who you really are, and understand who is good for you and who is not. You gotta understand that everyone have their own path, and while some people will be able to accompany you in your path for a while, they also have their own paths...Turmoil and insecurities lives in all of us but its key for our health of mind, to be able to see past them, for a better understandment.
Is it normal that I stopped talking to everyone in my life?
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I believe you have unreal expectations about people and you dont quite get how their heads tick, so you dont see them as equals, with similar problems, hopes, regrets, fears and emotions...thats were the mistrust and avoidance is born ... But people have their own lifes and thoughs too, and not everybody is gonna be able to understand you and be empathic, loyal,authentic, supportive, and nice all at the same time 24/7
In my opinion,is not healthy being totally trustfull around everyone and neither it is to live in complete isolation not trusting anyone. You gotta find some balance between those two extremist choices. Ask yourself this: is all people fake all the time? or maybe you cant read them? maybe both? maybe neither? the world is never black and white, there is not a single solution that solves everything, and thats scary and unconfortable...but we cant live in fear all our lives, just hidden from everyobody, not trusting anybody...
I think, the best way to avoid being dissapointed about people is understanding that nobody is perfect, and nobody owns you anything. You need to learn to be satisfied with yourself, and build a strong sense of selfesteem, and self value...THEN you will be able to be true to who you really are, and understand who is good for you and who is not. You gotta understand that everyone have their own path, and while some people will be able to accompany you in your path for a while, they also have their own paths...Turmoil and insecurities lives in all of us but its key for our health of mind, to be able to see past them, for a better understandment.