Is it normal that i still think about my sexual predator?
(sorry wasn't quite sure which category this would fall under...)
So, a while back I was sexually manipulated by someone that was older than me when I was not of age at the time. My time during the experience I thought it was good, although there was mind games going on during the relationship that I didn't come to realize until I started going to see a professional. I also realized after it that I didn't consent to some things.
The "relationship" if you were to call it lasted for around 2 months and then it came to an end when the police got involved and the person was ultimately awaiting trial (for almost a year) and was later sentenced. I am now of age and this person is still in jail, and I have conflicting feelings on whether to see them or not. I have so many unanswered questions from them that I wasn't able to receive because they were taken away from me so abruptly.
I care about them a lot and I'm worried about them, and truthfully, I still miss them even though I have been hurting ever since it happened. I can't even being to explain the back and forth psychological factors in all of this. Sometimes I wonder if everything wasn't actually so bad and everyone is making them seem more awful than it actually was. I'm too scared to post fuller details explaining why this situation is bad because I don't want people I know seeing it. I feel like I'm not normal enough to start dating again and that my trauma from all of it will make me a difficult partner.
Unfortunately, I did have to go to trial over it and it did reach the news. There were so many people saying "man I wish it was me," "wish I was there," "the "victim" is probably lying about it" and I was a kid reading it. I think it partially brainwashed me, and left me to have these feelings I have today. The person who did this to me was the only person who would listen to me, and was the person who I relied on for everything and it has destroyed me.
Is it normal that I miss them because I feel like I have no one else? If anyone can relate somehow I'd really appreciate some feedback/advice.