Is it normal that i still struggle with gay feelings

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Ok only serious replies please. I have been married and faithful to the same woman for 26 years. Prior to being married I had a couple of homosexual experiences. I just thought it was adolescent experimentation. Fast forward 26 years and three kids later I am having flashbacks daily to the times I experimented. I find myself longing to experience it again. Obviously it's not an option, but these feelings and emotions are getting stronger, and stronger. I hate that I am living this fantasy life in my mind, it consumes my dreams and daydreaming moments. Can anyone else relate or am I alone in a sea of pent up frustration? Your serious comments and advice are much appreciated! Thanks.

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  • DADNSCAL
    10 years ago | pl

    I can definitely relate. I've been married 33 years and still think about gay experiences i've had. Only difference is, I know I'm bisexual, and my wife does also.

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    • Stropie66
      10 years ago | pl

      If you don't mind sharing, how exactly did you break the news to your wife?

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  • locksmithtress
    10 years ago | pl

    Congratulations, you've been in denial for 26 years?

    There is something called divorce, if it gets THAT bad. If you LOVE your wife, you should be able to communicate your feelings to her, and figure something out. If you're attracted to me, however... I think you need to re-think your life.

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  • meandmrsright
    10 years ago | pl

    Serious reply, don't do it enjoy the wife and repress the sickness. Sounds like your just having a crisis and you'll get over it. The problem is you experimented to begin with. If you let this go it will destroy you, your life, your marriage and kids.

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  • Usmcxo3
    10 years ago | pl

    It is very normal, but definitely talk about it with her before you make the mistake on cheating on her with a man. That would very heartbreaking news to find out... especially if you guys have been married for so long. Honesty is always the key (:

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  • phlip
    10 years ago | pl

    Man it is ok to feel like that. I have the same thing all the time. Just dont beat yourself up for having feelings for other guys. Since I have accepted that I am bi, it bothers me less. It causes me allot of anxiety to fall in love with other . Unfortunately when the genie are out of the bottle, there are no putting it back, refering to homosexual expierience, you just have to live with it and make it less hurtfull for yourself. I do keep a guy always on the side, but not multiple or promiscoius guys, and always have safer sex, to protect myself and those I love. It helps to have sex with guys from time to time

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    • Stropie66
      10 years ago | pl

      Thanks, just reading your reply has helped me come to terms with it. It's slow going but I do feel better. I am bi, it's obvious I can't change it. The anxiety is the most stressful. Thanks!

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  • AndrePostell
    10 years ago | pl

    Maybe you're gay or bisexual? Have you thought about it?

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  • GreyWulfen
    10 years ago | pl

    Ever thought about a threesome with another guy?
    You should definitely talk with your wife about that.

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    • DADNSCAL
      10 years ago | pl

      We actually have talked about that, and almost had 1 in Las Vegas, but she chickened out.

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  • buddyroowho
    10 years ago | pl

    i have never had a gay experience, but i found as i got older i had more thoughts of it. I think it is just a sense of something different and curiousity. Since you have had experience and you have had the same partner for a long time....could just be a sense of "what if"

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  • baronroderick
    10 years ago | pl

    You should read the Kinsey reports, also take a look on my comments, I answered a guy whose boss wanted to bj him.

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  • Peptox
    10 years ago | pl

    I wouldn't say normal but it's not a bad thing. Get some professional help if it really effects your daily life so much :)

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    10 years ago | pl

    Normal. Since experimenting with other guys is not an option, maybe you and your wife should give pegging a try?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago | pl

    Whoops, I seem to have stumbled onto a middle aged queer thread full of said people.

    *Walks out shaking his head,

    "Jesus will kill them, time to do some cat things".

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