Mmmpfh,
I think it's completely normal. I'm going through the same thing right now. It's funny, because your situation sounds incredibly similar to the one I had with my own ex boyfriend.
We dated almost 2 years ago, we texted all the time. It's funny you mention her talking about her guy friends because I would do that too haha, but I would only do it to make him jealous in a teasing way! Although now I really regret doing it to him and wonder if it bothered him as much as it bothered you. At one point I did stop texting him, but it wasn't because I didn't want to talk to him, to the contrary, it was because I too was going through a lot of bad things in my life; I couldn't find the courage to speak to him about them.
At one point things in my life got so bad, I worried that they might affect his own life. So I thought if I stopped texting him entirely, maybe he would break the relationship himself so he wouldn't be as broken if I did it. And maybe he would find someone else who would provide him a healthier and more stable relationship.
but...I don't think you could be him since I never left him. In my relationship he was the one that ended it.
but you know...I think about him too, and I miss him a lot more than I should and I know I need to get over him...but I was about to ask the same question you did on this website.
I wanted to marry this guy too once, but I'm pretty certain he doesn't care about me anymore. He messages me every now and then, but when I reply, he doesn't respond, and I feel as though he just doesn't care and is doing it to be polite. Also someone told me he's dating someone else now, so i'm almost positive he really doesn't care, regardless, I'm so happy and proud of him and hope her life is more stable than mine to give them both a happier, stronger, long lasting relationship.
What i'm trying to say is: sometimes people have good intentions, but they come out wrong (like me talking about my guy friends), or simply because of bad circumstances in life or they don't know how to deal with it properly. In the end, they may feel the same way you do, and are also too afraid to speak up about it because they feel you too aren't interested anymore. It never hurts to ask them about it...if it turns out she doesn't still feel the same way, (as I do about my ex), then maybe just stay friends, I mean, if she really didn't like you, she wouldn't have responded to your messages at all (which is why I even respond to my ex). Many of my friends won't respond when their ex's try to message them. (Although everyone is different).
Wow. That was the best piece of advice any one has ever given me on this dilemna. I'm promoting you to Commander Amazing.
I couldn't believe as I read that, you sounded just like her. And I even thought it could even be her, till you stated that he left you in the end, which is the only difference I can see so far!
I've been having a terrible time dealing with the thought of how she treated me in comparison to her guy friends. You have made everything make so much more sense. I was never a jealous guy, but the fact that she stopped texting me, it was like she stopped because she was enjoying their company more, and it ate away at me.
You made me remember how she too went through some taxing situations when things got bad and they severely affected our time together, especially on the intimacy front of things.
I even did what you said your ex does to you! I texted her (about twice total) just to say something like "Happy Birthday :)" but never replied after that. I felt it wasn't my place. It was my way of showing her I care without bringing up old pains. I didn't to risk upsetting her.
And in my case my ex is also dating someone new. I hear he's just like me. But rich. ¬_¬
It's upseting of course, but if he truly is a nice guy and treats her with the same respect I treated her with, then I can live with it.
Anyway, thank you for the advice! We are not alone in our troubles.
Is it normal that I still miss my ex girlfriend after nearly 2 years?
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Mmmpfh,
I think it's completely normal. I'm going through the same thing right now. It's funny, because your situation sounds incredibly similar to the one I had with my own ex boyfriend.
We dated almost 2 years ago, we texted all the time. It's funny you mention her talking about her guy friends because I would do that too haha, but I would only do it to make him jealous in a teasing way! Although now I really regret doing it to him and wonder if it bothered him as much as it bothered you. At one point I did stop texting him, but it wasn't because I didn't want to talk to him, to the contrary, it was because I too was going through a lot of bad things in my life; I couldn't find the courage to speak to him about them.
At one point things in my life got so bad, I worried that they might affect his own life. So I thought if I stopped texting him entirely, maybe he would break the relationship himself so he wouldn't be as broken if I did it. And maybe he would find someone else who would provide him a healthier and more stable relationship.
but...I don't think you could be him since I never left him. In my relationship he was the one that ended it.
but you know...I think about him too, and I miss him a lot more than I should and I know I need to get over him...but I was about to ask the same question you did on this website.
I wanted to marry this guy too once, but I'm pretty certain he doesn't care about me anymore. He messages me every now and then, but when I reply, he doesn't respond, and I feel as though he just doesn't care and is doing it to be polite. Also someone told me he's dating someone else now, so i'm almost positive he really doesn't care, regardless, I'm so happy and proud of him and hope her life is more stable than mine to give them both a happier, stronger, long lasting relationship.
What i'm trying to say is: sometimes people have good intentions, but they come out wrong (like me talking about my guy friends), or simply because of bad circumstances in life or they don't know how to deal with it properly. In the end, they may feel the same way you do, and are also too afraid to speak up about it because they feel you too aren't interested anymore. It never hurts to ask them about it...if it turns out she doesn't still feel the same way, (as I do about my ex), then maybe just stay friends, I mean, if she really didn't like you, she wouldn't have responded to your messages at all (which is why I even respond to my ex). Many of my friends won't respond when their ex's try to message them. (Although everyone is different).
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Wow. That was the best piece of advice any one has ever given me on this dilemna. I'm promoting you to Commander Amazing.
I couldn't believe as I read that, you sounded just like her. And I even thought it could even be her, till you stated that he left you in the end, which is the only difference I can see so far!
I've been having a terrible time dealing with the thought of how she treated me in comparison to her guy friends. You have made everything make so much more sense. I was never a jealous guy, but the fact that she stopped texting me, it was like she stopped because she was enjoying their company more, and it ate away at me.
You made me remember how she too went through some taxing situations when things got bad and they severely affected our time together, especially on the intimacy front of things.
I even did what you said your ex does to you! I texted her (about twice total) just to say something like "Happy Birthday :)" but never replied after that. I felt it wasn't my place. It was my way of showing her I care without bringing up old pains. I didn't to risk upsetting her.
And in my case my ex is also dating someone new. I hear he's just like me. But rich. ¬_¬
It's upseting of course, but if he truly is a nice guy and treats her with the same respect I treated her with, then I can live with it.
Anyway, thank you for the advice! We are not alone in our troubles.