This is obviously a touchy and delicate subject, but I believe you handled it well. Number one, and most important: he asked, and you did not force anything on him. I know some might say "point him to a video", or maybe a book or diagram - that's tricky, because it doesn't explain things, and could lead to misuse of pornography. You let him ask questions, and you responded, so that was great! You were only sharing with him what HE needed/wanted to know. Sometimes, explaining something verbally, or watching a video, just doesn't provide what the person needs. He had specific questions, and you responded, in a loving and caring way. I would hope that you also shared with him: there's nothing wrong with masturbating; you should only do this in private (not casually around the house, or when the folks are throwing a dinner party, or at sleep overs!); if you do it with someone else, you both have to agree you want to (like he wanted you to show him) - in other words, NEVER do anything you don't want to do, and NEVER let anyone make you do things; and, that he should be free to explore and discover on his own what he enjoys about himself and his own body, because everyone is different, and that's OK! And, I hope you told him if he ever has question, to feel free to ask. Again, some might disagree - but, I think what you did was respectful and within appropriate bounds.
Is it normal that I showed my younger brother how to masturbate?
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This is obviously a touchy and delicate subject, but I believe you handled it well. Number one, and most important: he asked, and you did not force anything on him. I know some might say "point him to a video", or maybe a book or diagram - that's tricky, because it doesn't explain things, and could lead to misuse of pornography. You let him ask questions, and you responded, so that was great! You were only sharing with him what HE needed/wanted to know. Sometimes, explaining something verbally, or watching a video, just doesn't provide what the person needs. He had specific questions, and you responded, in a loving and caring way. I would hope that you also shared with him: there's nothing wrong with masturbating; you should only do this in private (not casually around the house, or when the folks are throwing a dinner party, or at sleep overs!); if you do it with someone else, you both have to agree you want to (like he wanted you to show him) - in other words, NEVER do anything you don't want to do, and NEVER let anyone make you do things; and, that he should be free to explore and discover on his own what he enjoys about himself and his own body, because everyone is different, and that's OK! And, I hope you told him if he ever has question, to feel free to ask. Again, some might disagree - but, I think what you did was respectful and within appropriate bounds.