Then why can't I change? I tried it with girls so many times. Even dated a pretty hot girl in high school when I used to play basketball. I just end up being more attracted to males, because I've been avoiding them the whole time.
When I was in high school I used to be attracted to the femine type, but they also had to be small/short, so they could closely resembled a girl. But now I'm more attracted to the masculine type, since I find them to be rarer in the lgbt community that I went to with some friends. And being more on the neutral/masc side than feminine I could relate to them better, like chatting about sports, games and etc.
I don't know why but feminity isn't attractive to me anymore, and it never drew me in when it was a feminine girl. My first full on crush was with one of my friends on my basket ball team, when I was 15, I learnt he was bi later and he almost got with me. But then he got kicked of the team for smoking on school grounds and he kinda fucked his life up and dropped out of school. He stopped contacting me too.
If I try to break my attraction towards men some how, I still have the problem of trying to build up attraction towards women. Tried porn too but I found my self taking no interest the women there either. Only some seemed to draw my attention if the were flat chested and not too curvy.
Maybe it was that you werent confident enough to think that you could get the feminine type
So you went with what you could get which was the guys who were into sports, who happened to be muscular?
Because you could relate to them better?
Im just guessing here
But you said you dated a girl before, so i dont know
Maybe you were just afraid to try anything sexual with her?
It makes sense though since your attracted to masculinity, that you would find girls a turn off, femininity anyway, because girls are naturally feminine
thats why you find flat chested girls somewhat attractive, because they resemble masculinity, and thats what your apparently attracted to right now
so it makes sense
your saying you used to be attracted the feminine type and now your attracted to the masculine type
which proves that your attraction CAN change
i might have a idea about what is going on, im not 100% sure, but are you really masculine yourself?
I don't I just slowly lost interest in them. My confidence is kinda average low, but only because people over complement me too much on anything I do or any facial features I have, to the point that I think I'm not actually attractive and they're just being over supportive. Because they are the lgbt, a very supportive group.
I also noticed some feminine guys were intimated by me if I asked them if they were gay, because they would often mistaken me for a straight guy looking to bash some guys or some other stupid thought. And I can't flirt for shit, only joke around.
So yeah I guess I went with what wouldn't run away from me. Or that I could get more easily, since masc usually like to date other masc (lgbt stereyotype).
Yeah that makes sense. I find my self to be between neutral and masculine. My bf's is like the Alpha wolf he's scared/hates butterflies why I find them to be attractive bugs. When I got him flowers for valentine's day last year he told me to get him something he can use. And he can't clean anything and is shit at cooking. Plus he's a gym freak likes to focus on lifting weights, while I'm a jogger and lift occasionally.
Yeah I have no idea if I'm attractive. I could get girls really easily in high school, when I was trying to turn my self straight. But I thought it had to do because I was a basketball player. This one chick even asked me out but she had a bf on the swim team that I knew of so I rejected her.
Yeah maybe I sounded to serious and asking too soon when I just met them.
Yeah maybe I should try flirting instead of asking. Hopeful I don't make a fool of my self.
Yeah that's the rarest pairing I've seen and now I know why.
Haha yeah I guess.
Do you really think so? I could try again after I break up with my bf. I dont want to deal with him and his family anymore. They're starting to make me hate my self.
IIN that I really don't want to be gay?
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Then why can't I change? I tried it with girls so many times. Even dated a pretty hot girl in high school when I used to play basketball. I just end up being more attracted to males, because I've been avoiding them the whole time.
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because you THINK you cant change
when you really can
its all state of mind
of course if you think you cant change then you arent even allowing yourself a chance to possibly change
you got to have the attitude that you CAN, because the truth is you really can
im bisexual right now. yet im straight at heart. always like feminine-ness, always will
even with guys they gotta be feminine or its gonna be a turn off
and i want to become straight again one day, i have felt so straight that i couldnt even look at dicks in pictures
it was nasty
and now im open to it lol
it is a choice. i used to be straight. i changed once, i can change back
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When I was in high school I used to be attracted to the femine type, but they also had to be small/short, so they could closely resembled a girl. But now I'm more attracted to the masculine type, since I find them to be rarer in the lgbt community that I went to with some friends. And being more on the neutral/masc side than feminine I could relate to them better, like chatting about sports, games and etc.
I don't know why but feminity isn't attractive to me anymore, and it never drew me in when it was a feminine girl. My first full on crush was with one of my friends on my basket ball team, when I was 15, I learnt he was bi later and he almost got with me. But then he got kicked of the team for smoking on school grounds and he kinda fucked his life up and dropped out of school. He stopped contacting me too.
If I try to break my attraction towards men some how, I still have the problem of trying to build up attraction towards women. Tried porn too but I found my self taking no interest the women there either. Only some seemed to draw my attention if the were flat chested and not too curvy.
I'm so strange I can't explain it...
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Maybe it was that you werent confident enough to think that you could get the feminine type
So you went with what you could get which was the guys who were into sports, who happened to be muscular?
Because you could relate to them better?
Im just guessing here
But you said you dated a girl before, so i dont know
Maybe you were just afraid to try anything sexual with her?
It makes sense though since your attracted to masculinity, that you would find girls a turn off, femininity anyway, because girls are naturally feminine
thats why you find flat chested girls somewhat attractive, because they resemble masculinity, and thats what your apparently attracted to right now
so it makes sense
your saying you used to be attracted the feminine type and now your attracted to the masculine type
which proves that your attraction CAN change
i might have a idea about what is going on, im not 100% sure, but are you really masculine yourself?
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I don't I just slowly lost interest in them. My confidence is kinda average low, but only because people over complement me too much on anything I do or any facial features I have, to the point that I think I'm not actually attractive and they're just being over supportive. Because they are the lgbt, a very supportive group.
I also noticed some feminine guys were intimated by me if I asked them if they were gay, because they would often mistaken me for a straight guy looking to bash some guys or some other stupid thought. And I can't flirt for shit, only joke around.
So yeah I guess I went with what wouldn't run away from me. Or that I could get more easily, since masc usually like to date other masc (lgbt stereyotype).
Yeah that makes sense. I find my self to be between neutral and masculine. My bf's is like the Alpha wolf he's scared/hates butterflies why I find them to be attractive bugs. When I got him flowers for valentine's day last year he told me to get him something he can use. And he can't clean anything and is shit at cooking. Plus he's a gym freak likes to focus on lifting weights, while I'm a jogger and lift occasionally.
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Hmmm
what if it really just is that you look good?
Ohhh I see what your saying, yea
It doesnt matter if they try to be supportive anyway, you can still have lots of confidence
Aww, sounds like they obviously didnt understand where you were coming from
It was either their own misinterpretation, or it was how you sounded
Im sure you could flirt if you really wanted to :)
Eh I just say it depends on the person
There are actually feminine guys who like to date masculine guys
So it does sound like you are a little feminine
I just think you should try out feminine guys again
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Yeah I have no idea if I'm attractive. I could get girls really easily in high school, when I was trying to turn my self straight. But I thought it had to do because I was a basketball player. This one chick even asked me out but she had a bf on the swim team that I knew of so I rejected her.
Yeah maybe I sounded to serious and asking too soon when I just met them.
Yeah maybe I should try flirting instead of asking. Hopeful I don't make a fool of my self.
Yeah that's the rarest pairing I've seen and now I know why.
Haha yeah I guess.
Do you really think so? I could try again after I break up with my bf. I dont want to deal with him and his family anymore. They're starting to make me hate my self.