Uhh, if you can start being attracted to big muscular dudes if you want to, that means you've always been attracted to them...you're just repressing it, which is common among homophobic bigots. The anger and hatred, which you disguise with this "it's not natural" bullshit, is a result of the jealousy you feel about them accepting who they are and the anger at yourself for feeling that way.
Do you realize you just proved your idiotic "it's a choice" post completely wrong?
Being gay isn't about what you do, it's how you feel. And you just admitted that you don't choose how you feel or what you like, you can only choose what you do about it. But whether you do it or not is irrelevant, the feelings are still there. If you're attracted to your own gender, whether you act on it or not, you're gay. (Or bi if you're attracted to both, obviously.) That means, by your own admission, being gay isn't a choice.
Then why can't I change? I tried it with girls so many times. Even dated a pretty hot girl in high school when I used to play basketball. I just end up being more attracted to males, because I've been avoiding them the whole time.
When I was in high school I used to be attracted to the femine type, but they also had to be small/short, so they could closely resembled a girl. But now I'm more attracted to the masculine type, since I find them to be rarer in the lgbt community that I went to with some friends. And being more on the neutral/masc side than feminine I could relate to them better, like chatting about sports, games and etc.
I don't know why but feminity isn't attractive to me anymore, and it never drew me in when it was a feminine girl. My first full on crush was with one of my friends on my basket ball team, when I was 15, I learnt he was bi later and he almost got with me. But then he got kicked of the team for smoking on school grounds and he kinda fucked his life up and dropped out of school. He stopped contacting me too.
If I try to break my attraction towards men some how, I still have the problem of trying to build up attraction towards women. Tried porn too but I found my self taking no interest the women there either. Only some seemed to draw my attention if the were flat chested and not too curvy.
Maybe it was that you werent confident enough to think that you could get the feminine type
So you went with what you could get which was the guys who were into sports, who happened to be muscular?
Because you could relate to them better?
Im just guessing here
But you said you dated a girl before, so i dont know
Maybe you were just afraid to try anything sexual with her?
It makes sense though since your attracted to masculinity, that you would find girls a turn off, femininity anyway, because girls are naturally feminine
thats why you find flat chested girls somewhat attractive, because they resemble masculinity, and thats what your apparently attracted to right now
so it makes sense
your saying you used to be attracted the feminine type and now your attracted to the masculine type
which proves that your attraction CAN change
i might have a idea about what is going on, im not 100% sure, but are you really masculine yourself?
I don't I just slowly lost interest in them. My confidence is kinda average low, but only because people over complement me too much on anything I do or any facial features I have, to the point that I think I'm not actually attractive and they're just being over supportive. Because they are the lgbt, a very supportive group.
I also noticed some feminine guys were intimated by me if I asked them if they were gay, because they would often mistaken me for a straight guy looking to bash some guys or some other stupid thought. And I can't flirt for shit, only joke around.
So yeah I guess I went with what wouldn't run away from me. Or that I could get more easily, since masc usually like to date other masc (lgbt stereyotype).
Yeah that makes sense. I find my self to be between neutral and masculine. My bf's is like the Alpha wolf he's scared/hates butterflies why I find them to be attractive bugs. When I got him flowers for valentine's day last year he told me to get him something he can use. And he can't clean anything and is shit at cooking. Plus he's a gym freak likes to focus on lifting weights, while I'm a jogger and lift occasionally.
IIN that I really don't want to be gay?
↑ View this comment's parent
← View full post
Wrong. Its a choice
--
bubsy
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
-
Anonymous Post Author
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
Attraction isn't something we consciously control.
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
-
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
i used to be straight
never liked dick
was turned off by it
later i saw cute feminine boys in porn
my perspective changed from thinking about boys, which would turn me off, to thinking about them in a feminine way
my perspective changed, and then i became open to them
(curious)
and i got into them only because they were feminine
i still like feminine parts of either girls or boys, so yes that has never changed
but thanks to me being open to feminine boys, my thoughts have changed
i know its just mainly in porn, which is where the most feminine of boys has come from
society is usually mostly masculine, with the guys being masculine
porn has allowed a doorway of open-minded into something that rarely occurs in society
sure it is possible for guys to be feminine, but thats not usually how it works
except in boys, not men
ive never changed my attraction to femininity, but im more open-minded about the same sex
porn can make more people open-minded about being gay, and the elites are trying to make guys more feminine
which is not natural. this is not how society is supposed to be
but still, if i wanted to change my attraction, i probaley still could
so your saying, even though i dont like big muscular dudes, i cant start being attracted to them if i try?
--
factcheck
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Uhh, if you can start being attracted to big muscular dudes if you want to, that means you've always been attracted to them...you're just repressing it, which is common among homophobic bigots. The anger and hatred, which you disguise with this "it's not natural" bullshit, is a result of the jealousy you feel about them accepting who they are and the anger at yourself for feeling that way.
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
thats retarded
stop being retarded
IM NOT attracted to muscular guys, but what if my attraction changes?
why is it impossible for my attraction to change?
why?
apparently the op of this question has changed his attraction to feminine guys, to masculine guys
why is this impossible, and why is this such a impossibility to your mind?
its not that im repressing it, omfg
thats like saying you're secretly into banging dogs, and if your not your just repressing your attraction
that argument is retarded as dogshit
attraction can change
end of story
and btw its just not natural if you understand the ying yang of attraction
it is feeling i agree with you
but you can choose
just like you can choose not to drink soda even though you may like it
--
factcheck
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
-
bubsy
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
Do you realize you just proved your idiotic "it's a choice" post completely wrong?
Being gay isn't about what you do, it's how you feel. And you just admitted that you don't choose how you feel or what you like, you can only choose what you do about it. But whether you do it or not is irrelevant, the feelings are still there. If you're attracted to your own gender, whether you act on it or not, you're gay. (Or bi if you're attracted to both, obviously.) That means, by your own admission, being gay isn't a choice.
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
i understand its both feeling, and at the same time, it is also what you choose
just because you get horny to something, doesnt mean you have to act on it is what im saying
with my analogy
who says its not a choice either?
why can i not choose my attraction? i am my own person. i make my own decisions
i used to be straight
im bisexual now
its a choice
explain that
Someone hack your account or did you overdo the alcohol at a Superbowl Party?
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
are you saying that you can choose is ridiculous?
or my analogy?
Then why can't I change? I tried it with girls so many times. Even dated a pretty hot girl in high school when I used to play basketball. I just end up being more attracted to males, because I've been avoiding them the whole time.
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-3
-3
because you THINK you cant change
when you really can
its all state of mind
of course if you think you cant change then you arent even allowing yourself a chance to possibly change
you got to have the attitude that you CAN, because the truth is you really can
im bisexual right now. yet im straight at heart. always like feminine-ness, always will
even with guys they gotta be feminine or its gonna be a turn off
and i want to become straight again one day, i have felt so straight that i couldnt even look at dicks in pictures
it was nasty
and now im open to it lol
it is a choice. i used to be straight. i changed once, i can change back
--
Anonymous Post Author
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
-1
-1
When I was in high school I used to be attracted to the femine type, but they also had to be small/short, so they could closely resembled a girl. But now I'm more attracted to the masculine type, since I find them to be rarer in the lgbt community that I went to with some friends. And being more on the neutral/masc side than feminine I could relate to them better, like chatting about sports, games and etc.
I don't know why but feminity isn't attractive to me anymore, and it never drew me in when it was a feminine girl. My first full on crush was with one of my friends on my basket ball team, when I was 15, I learnt he was bi later and he almost got with me. But then he got kicked of the team for smoking on school grounds and he kinda fucked his life up and dropped out of school. He stopped contacting me too.
If I try to break my attraction towards men some how, I still have the problem of trying to build up attraction towards women. Tried porn too but I found my self taking no interest the women there either. Only some seemed to draw my attention if the were flat chested and not too curvy.
I'm so strange I can't explain it...
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Maybe it was that you werent confident enough to think that you could get the feminine type
So you went with what you could get which was the guys who were into sports, who happened to be muscular?
Because you could relate to them better?
Im just guessing here
But you said you dated a girl before, so i dont know
Maybe you were just afraid to try anything sexual with her?
It makes sense though since your attracted to masculinity, that you would find girls a turn off, femininity anyway, because girls are naturally feminine
thats why you find flat chested girls somewhat attractive, because they resemble masculinity, and thats what your apparently attracted to right now
so it makes sense
your saying you used to be attracted the feminine type and now your attracted to the masculine type
which proves that your attraction CAN change
i might have a idea about what is going on, im not 100% sure, but are you really masculine yourself?
--
Anonymous Post Author
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
I don't I just slowly lost interest in them. My confidence is kinda average low, but only because people over complement me too much on anything I do or any facial features I have, to the point that I think I'm not actually attractive and they're just being over supportive. Because they are the lgbt, a very supportive group.
I also noticed some feminine guys were intimated by me if I asked them if they were gay, because they would often mistaken me for a straight guy looking to bash some guys or some other stupid thought. And I can't flirt for shit, only joke around.
So yeah I guess I went with what wouldn't run away from me. Or that I could get more easily, since masc usually like to date other masc (lgbt stereyotype).
Yeah that makes sense. I find my self to be between neutral and masculine. My bf's is like the Alpha wolf he's scared/hates butterflies why I find them to be attractive bugs. When I got him flowers for valentine's day last year he told me to get him something he can use. And he can't clean anything and is shit at cooking. Plus he's a gym freak likes to focus on lifting weights, while I'm a jogger and lift occasionally.
--
sandnigga
6 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
See More Comments =>
Hmmm
what if it really just is that you look good?
Ohhh I see what your saying, yea
It doesnt matter if they try to be supportive anyway, you can still have lots of confidence
Aww, sounds like they obviously didnt understand where you were coming from
It was either their own misinterpretation, or it was how you sounded
Im sure you could flirt if you really wanted to :)
Eh I just say it depends on the person
There are actually feminine guys who like to date masculine guys
So it does sound like you are a little feminine
I just think you should try out feminine guys again