Unless there is some major incident where your daughter is missing or seriously injured and cannot talk; and the diary might provide a clue... you should not read their diaries unless they first ask you to - or you ask them and tell them why you want to look at it - and they agree (with no pressure applied).
Actually, in the first case its best if you ask someone else to read them and tell you if they found anything that might indicate what happened. That person has to be someone who will not tell you anything else about what is in the diary. That maintains a parent-child trust; and the child will respect you for not invading their privacy any more than needed in the situation.
Its often best to tell them that you are concerned about them and why before you ask. You should also offer to let them read your diary from your youth (or even current) in exchange.
Young people that age are developing and the concept of Privacy is very important to them. If they find out they will feel very violated by you and you will have lost a good portion of their trust. Now in an emergency where they are missing they would likely understand why and agree that in certain emergencies that you had the right to look for clues. But, outside of that - its a major invasion of privacy.
Is it normal that I read my daughter's diary?
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Unless there is some major incident where your daughter is missing or seriously injured and cannot talk; and the diary might provide a clue... you should not read their diaries unless they first ask you to - or you ask them and tell them why you want to look at it - and they agree (with no pressure applied).
Actually, in the first case its best if you ask someone else to read them and tell you if they found anything that might indicate what happened. That person has to be someone who will not tell you anything else about what is in the diary. That maintains a parent-child trust; and the child will respect you for not invading their privacy any more than needed in the situation.
Its often best to tell them that you are concerned about them and why before you ask. You should also offer to let them read your diary from your youth (or even current) in exchange.
Young people that age are developing and the concept of Privacy is very important to them. If they find out they will feel very violated by you and you will have lost a good portion of their trust. Now in an emergency where they are missing they would likely understand why and agree that in certain emergencies that you had the right to look for clues. But, outside of that - its a major invasion of privacy.