Is it normal that i physically can't do this?

Just because you've been to therapy before doesn't mean that you're 100% cured and should never seek help again. Maybe now that you're in a relationship with a supportive guy, the therapy can help you work out issues that weren't reachable before.

Tell you what I know from my best friend, who was also molested. Now listen carefully. She and her husband cancelled their honey moon because they couldn't even fathom the idea of been intimate. They got an advice by my own Grandmother to do something very simple. If you live by yourself and have a enough privacy to spend a weekend with each other in the nude (or Hotel); no sexual agenda, and please my Grandma recommended for you not to aim at sexual anything during that time, just walk around, seat together, be comfortable with him naked (and probably hard), give him a massage, trim his area, talk, have a wine, let him show you how he works his member, pour lube on it so he know your ok (guys can get shy too) and please let him show you his release!,...not in the dark,...just there, day light, like if you are just enjoying how cute is the whole male orgasm, shower him, make out, ask him not to touch you, but let him know you will touch him, everywhere. Sleep together, in the nude. And very important, let him read this! There is something almost magic about pampering a man who observe rules. Even when you get to where you want now; you might want to do this again from time to time.

I would recommend that you see a therapist to help you work through and heal from the trauma of the abuse you suffered.

Im a guy, I had the same problem with my girlfriend when we first started doing stuff. it took a lot of tries, but eventually I broke the barrier, and now everything's fine. I was abused when I was like 5 or 6, but I don't remember it that well so I don't think it effects me too badly.

I think if you want to do it, and you're horny, I say you sound like you're probably feeling ready to move on from when you were abused. I say just keep trying, eventually everything will fall into place and something will happen. Keep at it ^^ Good luck in your sexy times

From one person who's been sexually abused to another, it used to be hard to be around guys but after I told my mom when I was like 11 everything got better. I suggest you talk with someone you are close to wether it be friend or relative. Therapists don't always work honey. Talk to your partner about sex tell him you want to have an open conversation about sex and love wig eachother. Ask him what he likes during sex tell him what you like. Set boundarys. Tell him what you want him to do and ask him what he wants you to do and see if you feel comfortable with or not. It is all about trust and communication. Hope this helps. ; ) xd.

Maybe you are subconsiously scared of the consequences that having sex might bring...such as pregnancy and infections! thats how i am....it always holds me back

I'm really sorry about your situation. I don't know what that's like but I'm sure it must be hard. I think you should continue going to therapy, maybe even couple's therapy. Also, how long have you been with this guy? He sounds really great for being patient with you; be patient with yourself too. I hope you can get through this, good luck! <3

I agree with Rose. Just because you went to therapy does not mean you are 100% healed yet.

When the time is right, it will be right as rain.

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