Thanks for your interest. I find generally, most of your comments were really helpful.
The general agreement seems to be that teenage male hormones make it nearly impossible to refrain from staring. Additionally, it seems that (like I thought) I need to learn to exercise self-control. Very subtle glimpsing is ok, as a rule, but I'll have to teach myself to respect the right to not be starred at.
Some of the comments you all made suggested that women who dress really scantily want to be checked out or starred at. While I know that's true in some scenarios, I don't think it's an invitation to treat them badly. Now when I put on a good, flattering shirt and jeans, shave, and get rid of my pimples, I'm usually trying to get the attention of one or two girls at my school.
That doesn't mean I want every girl to check me out, although TO BE HONEST I would love that attention from the opposite sex every one in a while. So I don't think it's blaming for dressing in a flattering or sexy way is cool, odds are it's for that one guy or girl they're trying to impress.
Anyway, it's scientifically verified that normal teenagers do have hormone problems and according to the general consensus, this manifests itself partly in an out of control libido (ie sex drive).
Thankfully my hormones are cooling down now. I don't have the same problems anymore because I've been training myself to not stare - I think it can be intimidating and uncomfortable for people. There's still work to be done, but I realise that glimpsing is not avoidable, but staring is.
is this Rom? sorry if its not hahaha it just sounds like a guy I know and I was curious because if I knew, I could help in person. Lol sorry if this was an inconvenience.
P.S. Looking at girls is absolutely normal. In a relationship, its not very fair to your partner as they would feel not pretty enough for you and i'm sure if the situation was reversed you'd feel the same, but when you are single GO FOR IT. Girls think its creepy to stare for a long time, but its kind of a compliment to see a guy take a glimpse at our ass or something. It lets us know that we're attractive and gives us a bit more confidence. I respect you for questioning your behavior as it shows that you don't want to be rude to the opposite sex and care about our feelings unlike most guys.
Right on, man! I really like your post here. You sound like a healthy young man who's emotionally balanced. You weren't objectifying her per se just enjoying the view too long. Try not to do that and especially try not to let the jaw drop cause then if you stare too long and zone out you could get a drooling issue and that's not good for anyone.
Is it normal that I perve a lot? Should I feel guilty?
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Hi everyone,
Thanks for your interest. I find generally, most of your comments were really helpful.
The general agreement seems to be that teenage male hormones make it nearly impossible to refrain from staring. Additionally, it seems that (like I thought) I need to learn to exercise self-control. Very subtle glimpsing is ok, as a rule, but I'll have to teach myself to respect the right to not be starred at.
Some of the comments you all made suggested that women who dress really scantily want to be checked out or starred at. While I know that's true in some scenarios, I don't think it's an invitation to treat them badly. Now when I put on a good, flattering shirt and jeans, shave, and get rid of my pimples, I'm usually trying to get the attention of one or two girls at my school.
That doesn't mean I want every girl to check me out, although TO BE HONEST I would love that attention from the opposite sex every one in a while. So I don't think it's blaming for dressing in a flattering or sexy way is cool, odds are it's for that one guy or girl they're trying to impress.
Anyway, it's scientifically verified that normal teenagers do have hormone problems and according to the general consensus, this manifests itself partly in an out of control libido (ie sex drive).
Thankfully my hormones are cooling down now. I don't have the same problems anymore because I've been training myself to not stare - I think it can be intimidating and uncomfortable for people. There's still work to be done, but I realise that glimpsing is not avoidable, but staring is.
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is this Rom? sorry if its not hahaha it just sounds like a guy I know and I was curious because if I knew, I could help in person. Lol sorry if this was an inconvenience.
P.S. Looking at girls is absolutely normal. In a relationship, its not very fair to your partner as they would feel not pretty enough for you and i'm sure if the situation was reversed you'd feel the same, but when you are single GO FOR IT. Girls think its creepy to stare for a long time, but its kind of a compliment to see a guy take a glimpse at our ass or something. It lets us know that we're attractive and gives us a bit more confidence. I respect you for questioning your behavior as it shows that you don't want to be rude to the opposite sex and care about our feelings unlike most guys.
Right on, man! I really like your post here. You sound like a healthy young man who's emotionally balanced. You weren't objectifying her per se just enjoying the view too long. Try not to do that and especially try not to let the jaw drop cause then if you stare too long and zone out you could get a drooling issue and that's not good for anyone.