Nothing wrong with you at all. My hubby is 13 years my senior. Who you're attracted to is a combination of things that go beyond physical chemistry - emotional and mental compatibility are crucial.
Like you, I simply never met guys my age who were of interest. Very often, older men have more to offer: they're stable. They're no longer behaving like idiots (binge drinking, driving recklessly, partying all weekend, etc.). They know what they want; they're ready to settle down. Very often, they're more responsible.
As for growing old WITH someone - I'd rather grow old with them than because of them. At the time I met my hubby, being with someone my own age would have made me miserable. More than that, I would prefer to have twenty wonderful years, than fifty mediocre or even horrible ones.
OP, ask yourself: What do you see in the older guys that you don't in the younger ones? Chances are that what draws you to older men are things that come with maturity. Not that younger men *can't* have those qualities, but all too often, they don't.
It also depends on your life experiences, as to who you'll be best suited to. I was homeless at 16, so by age 19, I was more like a 25-year-old in many regards. I was used to responsibility, having to run a household, look after myself, hold down a full-time job, and so on. Many 19-year-olds are *capable* of it - but that doesn't mean they DO it.
So yes, you're perfectly normal. Who makes a good mate for you is as individual as you are. Personally, I think it's fantastic that you recognise that you're not happy with a guy your age, rather than living a lie. I think that shows maturity on your part.
Is it normal that I only seem to be interested in older men?
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Nothing wrong with you at all. My hubby is 13 years my senior. Who you're attracted to is a combination of things that go beyond physical chemistry - emotional and mental compatibility are crucial.
Like you, I simply never met guys my age who were of interest. Very often, older men have more to offer: they're stable. They're no longer behaving like idiots (binge drinking, driving recklessly, partying all weekend, etc.). They know what they want; they're ready to settle down. Very often, they're more responsible.
As for growing old WITH someone - I'd rather grow old with them than because of them. At the time I met my hubby, being with someone my own age would have made me miserable. More than that, I would prefer to have twenty wonderful years, than fifty mediocre or even horrible ones.
OP, ask yourself: What do you see in the older guys that you don't in the younger ones? Chances are that what draws you to older men are things that come with maturity. Not that younger men *can't* have those qualities, but all too often, they don't.
It also depends on your life experiences, as to who you'll be best suited to. I was homeless at 16, so by age 19, I was more like a 25-year-old in many regards. I was used to responsibility, having to run a household, look after myself, hold down a full-time job, and so on. Many 19-year-olds are *capable* of it - but that doesn't mean they DO it.
So yes, you're perfectly normal. Who makes a good mate for you is as individual as you are. Personally, I think it's fantastic that you recognise that you're not happy with a guy your age, rather than living a lie. I think that shows maturity on your part.