Have a conversation with her honestly about the act and your wish to perform it prior to engaging in sex. If she is hesitant or unwilling to participate, respect her wishes and drop it. If she is interested, then you have work to do.
Setting the mood to get her to relax is important. The anxiety most women feel about being penetrated anally may cause her to feel very tense at the moment of penetration which could lead to injury. I suggest taking as much time and effort as is necessary to help her relax (petting and massage, bubble bathing, other sexual acts etc) prior to anal penetration.
Hygiene is also an issue to think about. While all sex is generally germ and disease-risky, anal sex carries the highest risk. You might be able to purchase an anal douche at health and sex store or online. This way, she can clean out her anal canal to reduce fecal matter there via an enema. Also have a thought as to whether or not you would prefer to wear a condom (disease AND infection are major considerations).
Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication! With beginners, do not use saliva because it will not provide sufficient lubrication. Go to a sex store, or online and buy water-based anal lubrication. Ensure that the entire shaft of the penetrating penis and the outer sphincter and the inner lining of the anal canal are well lubricated (use fingers to do this...gently) prior to penetration.
To address your question more directly, it is fairly normal to want to anally penetrate a woman you are attracted to. But this is not a widely accepted, discussed or conventional sex act, so you may want to be careful about how you approach a woman about it, and decide how important it is to you because some women will simply have no interest in it. Also, like all sex acts, it is best, safest and most enjoyable when practiced in a monogamous relationship where there is love, trust and communication.
Is it normal that I only love anal sex with girls?
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Ways to make it more pleasurable for her:
Have a conversation with her honestly about the act and your wish to perform it prior to engaging in sex. If she is hesitant or unwilling to participate, respect her wishes and drop it. If she is interested, then you have work to do.
Setting the mood to get her to relax is important. The anxiety most women feel about being penetrated anally may cause her to feel very tense at the moment of penetration which could lead to injury. I suggest taking as much time and effort as is necessary to help her relax (petting and massage, bubble bathing, other sexual acts etc) prior to anal penetration.
Hygiene is also an issue to think about. While all sex is generally germ and disease-risky, anal sex carries the highest risk. You might be able to purchase an anal douche at health and sex store or online. This way, she can clean out her anal canal to reduce fecal matter there via an enema. Also have a thought as to whether or not you would prefer to wear a condom (disease AND infection are major considerations).
Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication! With beginners, do not use saliva because it will not provide sufficient lubrication. Go to a sex store, or online and buy water-based anal lubrication. Ensure that the entire shaft of the penetrating penis and the outer sphincter and the inner lining of the anal canal are well lubricated (use fingers to do this...gently) prior to penetration.
To address your question more directly, it is fairly normal to want to anally penetrate a woman you are attracted to. But this is not a widely accepted, discussed or conventional sex act, so you may want to be careful about how you approach a woman about it, and decide how important it is to you because some women will simply have no interest in it. Also, like all sex acts, it is best, safest and most enjoyable when practiced in a monogamous relationship where there is love, trust and communication.
best of luck to you!