Is it normal that i only like rough sex?

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I have been this way since puberty. im now 19 ...its still not changed. Im afraid theres something really wrong with me. Women are supposed to like things sweet, romantic and gentle....but not me. Whether it be with myself or with a lover ..i have to have it rough or else I cannot finish. There has to be cussing and pinning and struggling and forcing. I have tried the sweet love making and i only become distracted and completely turned off after about a minute. Its a terrible thing to have to ask your boyfriend to "rape" you. But otherwise i just cant stay in the moment. This cant be normal....can it? o.o

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  • blackcattalks
    12 years ago | pl

    i actually have and she suspects that this dark desire is partly due to typical self esteem issues...but also could be due to a traumatic sexually related incident in my past. the problem is i cannot remember anything sexually negative happening to me. her suspicion of this rose when i told her i have no memories before the age of twelve. so at this point idk what to do.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago | pl

      well i think its a red flag having no memory before 12, maybe you witnessed porn early on, or other trauma. ask yr dreams

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago | pl

    Fetishes are like pandora's box unfortunately - once you go there, it's very hard to go back. Have you tried going to a therapist?

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  • blackcattalks
    12 years ago | pl

    yes that is what i have found out as well. most guys find it very strange and they are afraid to do it. which i guess is a good thing. but does this mean i have something wrong with me? do i need help? =( ...i want to be able to have a passionate and sweet relationship like other women. plus my bf is not a fan of this.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago | pl

    I have friend in your situation. she can't really get off unless she having s&m sex. it's really frustrating for her. a lot of guys seems to be intimidated by it.

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