Is it normal that i only "come" when masturbating?

Im a guy, and I have never had an orgasm during sex, only when i masturbate.

The secret is.... Are you ready for this?.... You orgasm with yourself because you know what spots to hit! Duh! Home field advantage. :)

Normal. It's something like 80% of women don't orgasm from sex. I am one of them. But I can do it on my own, too. I don't know what the secret is...

Home field advantage.

First of all your cusin is sick as hell and needs to be in jail or something because you dont rape a 5 year old untill there 11 thats wrong second i only "cum" when ever i masterbate also and you might want to try with a women you did say you were bisexual

Totally normal. I mostly only get off if I'm doing it myself

Guys suck. Why let someone do for you what you can do for yourself. ;)

I was molested at 4 and can't keep it down but I tend to cum really fast unless I do it myself. Molested sucks, period but I think that I became so sexually open because of it and have pleased a few people by it. I know that sounds terrible but I guess it's my way of copeing

I'd say normal. I have been having sex for 9 years, and Ive only had a fully sex-stimulated orgasm once. I can come if I rub myself at the same time, but even this isn't as mind blowing as when I masterbate myself and doesn't always work. Never been able to figure this out. Your situation may have something to do with being molested when you were young, this isn't the case with me though. I think its a mental thing... I think maybe I think to much whilst making love? Like you mentioned, I always feel like im just having sex for the guys pleasure above mine.

I think it's normal but, should be worked on. You should be comfortable with a lover. So much so, you are able to relax, let loose, and really open up and give yourself up to sexual arousal. The previous encounters with your cousin that lasted 6 years could very much be why you hold back your release. Depending on what exactly he did with you as well as whether you believe you began liking it or not (coping mechanism).

You know what? You should really try having sex with other chicks. They WILL know what to do to pleasure you. I'm a dude, but I have alot of friends that are chicks. Actually now that I think of it, all of my fiends are chicks. Well, all my close friends anyways. My point is we talk alot about intimate things, and it would be a good idea to have lesbian sex, because they will do to you what they do to themselves, and they will be good at it.

Aside from molestation, which I hope you worked out your demons, I think most women need some assistance with getting of aside from penetration alone. I would know cause I'm that type of woman. I have to give myself a hand when he penetrates. It's way better than doing it myself alone or just with him penetrating. It was weird at first, but it worked. It usually works best for us when I lay on my stomach and he really likes the position too. It's a win win situation. I feel your pain dude, but if you really want to feel good too, you might want to step out of your comfort zone too and try new things. A little bit though, don't get cray

I get it you know yourself more then anyone, I'd tell my partner what I want :)

Grab your boyfriends hair, shove his head in between your legs and make him eat that pussy til he gets it right!

I was molested as a child to from ages 4-11. I cannot orgasm during sex either, only through masturbation.

This my sound strange but here me out.Have a three way one guy one girl mabie having another person there will relax you and you will be able to compare guy/girl then if your ready make a choice hell you might even just stick with two at a time it gives a sense of security.Have fun

You need to speak up. Tell him what you want in bed. Try different positions or explain your fetishes to him. My girlfriend and I have the exact opposite problem. We can't get good orgasms just masturbating anymore. So it's not a problem with you, just your sex life.

Thanks to everyone for their input. The thing is i have had sex with females before and i enjoyed it a great deal. But not to the point where i want to completely stop male/female relations. I honestly wish i could have both :( ...but my boyfriend would never go for sharing me! He says i can only have sex with a girl if its a treesome where he is part of it. I would like to one day but as of right now i do not know personally any girl who would accept that.
So i kind of do it behind his back when i crave girl on girl interactions (i feel bad because i know i would be mad if the roles were reversed, but i cant help it! I get super turned on by chicks)

Thank you again for your comments

^ i do- the secret is a looot of foreplay. be very relaxed- cadelight and baths work well for getting comfortalble. take your time removing your clothes. have your partner start you with their hands and direct them to do what feels good. then have switch to their tounge, and after you feel extremely turned on slide it in. if its working, you're probably ready.

There is nothing more beutiful than watching a woman finger herself.