Is it normal that i never want to leave my house? not depressed.

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For as long as I can remember, I have had these times where I don't want to leave my house. At first I thought it was because of my current weight, but then I remember being like this when I was 16 and barely 100lbs. Back then I didn't leave my house for a month other than to go to school.

Now I am 37 and work from home and really never want to leave the house. Sometimes I'll get a sudden urge to go out, but if it's not an immediate "escape" (ex: I'm not dressed and/or ready), then I change my mind. I will leave if I have to, like go grocery shopping but at times I have had my supermarket deliver to me because I didn't even want to do that. My nephew visited from NY for 2 weeks, and even though I had to work during the day, he wanted to do things after work and on weekends and I felt so bad because I wanted him to go home just so I didn't have to go out.

I'm not depressed. I don't want to die, I don't think about anything suicidal, or anything like that. I am just not sure what could be wrong with me? What's ironic is that I get these spurts to travel (I have been to many countries all over the world), and book it right away. Then I dread going and don't have the time I think I SHOULD be having when I go. For example: I went with a friend to Paris for 10 days. She was in such awe watching the eiffel tower twinkle at night, and I was like meh. I didn't see the big deal.

I don't know... Is this normal?

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Based on 11 votes (9 yes)
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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome
    6 years ago

    Might be agoraphobia.

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  • anothertime
    6 years ago

    my wife has agoraphobia has done therapy for 20 years she is a wonderful wife takes very good care of out house and me I love her dearly it took a long time before she could go to the store 2 miles from home ...Have faith and keep trying.

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  • Cannelle
    6 years ago

    I understand, I'm like that too. I don't and sometimes never do leave home.

    While I might have undiagnosed depression, it is not directly linked to why I don't leave home.

    My family believes it's agoraphobia and while I do suffer from social anxiety it's more, to me, about not being able to do what I want.

    If definitely say I suffer from internet addiction (as silly as they may sound) and when I leave home there's no internet, minus wifi spots here and there.

    I'm comfortable here where I have all the things around me that will (usually) keep me from being bored.

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    Do you think the weight might be a result of the inactivity? Go for walks.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    im a homebody and a nature freak , now that im retired the great outdoors is my church and home is the only place i want to be. i dont even watch tV it has people , i see my family and thats it. i even cut my own hair. I think if NK nuked the USA it would miss me so i just dont give a fuck.

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  • Smithers
    6 years ago

    No place like home son. If you got unlimited high speed internet and can work from home then the only reason why I would leave is for going to the gym. FTW.

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  • Mysticphoenix79
    6 years ago

    Look I suffer from bipolar manic depression and I could tell you right now just because you're not having suicidal thoughts or because or because you feel like you don't want to die doesn't mean that you're not depressed you could be depressed without realizing it to be honest with you depression comes in a lot of different forms and different ways it can sneak up on you very easily and isolating yourself sting away from people could be a form of depression. Or you could be suffering from what is called social anxiety where you don't like being out in public among a lot of people so those are two things that you might want to look up look into things so look at the behavior that you're actually doing and talk to a professional person instead of saying I don't feel this way I don't feel that way because the non-existent of feelings is also a sign of depression too as well or bipolar. You're staying in the house all the time and you're not being a part of society you're not interacting with other humans which human beings are social animals and that's what we are naturally so therefore by not doing so there is an imbalance somewhere. We are meant to have companionship. Are there other things in your life that are lacking as well I mean what about hygiene or the way you eat do you exercise do you have any hobbies these are all other things that you have to look into two and the fact that you went to Paris and it was just blah that is a major indication of depression as well I mean the lack of finding excitement in something new or finding excited lack of finding excitement in things that you used to enjoy that's also a sign of depression so please before you self-diagnose and say that hey I don't feel depressed book into what depression actually is.

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  • KiwiWisdom
    6 years ago

    You do what's comfortable. If you don't have to go out or worry to, what's the motivation? Just sounds like you're content where you are. That's not normal, most people aren't content. Unlike most people you seem to enjoy being where you are and that's okay. It might make other people uncomfortable because they don't, but that's hardly your problem.

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    • quadra
      6 years ago

      I just wanted to make sure I wasn't "crazy" or something of the sort. I do have times where I do want to go somewhere, and do look forward to it. But I am one of those people that will make plans and either make up an excuse not to go, or hope that they cancel so I can just stay home. When I am stuck and have to keep the plans, all I can think about is getting out of there and going home.

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      • mia500
        6 years ago

        Being happy in your home is normal. What you just said, though "all I can think about is getting out of there and going home" is not. You need to find some sort of motivation because there will be instances/periods of your life where you need people. Its good to exercise good relationships.

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