My daughter is no 17. When she was little she was a "daddy's girl". Always with me, watching tv with me and singing in the car etc. When she was 11, my wife left to live with someone else. Add that to my daughter turning into a teenager and quite frankly it's been downhill ever sense. I try to talk to her but she screams at me and treats me like crap at times even though she says she loves me. I love her too but many times I don't want to be around her because of how she acts. She's very smart but failing school, actually out of school and trying to get her GED which she can do if she ever completes the class. She made extremely high scores on entrance tests and is now bored to death.
It's simple, she's lost like most teenagers and just doesn't feel like sharing the secrets of her life with me because I'm dad and she's embarrassed because she knows I don't approve of her current life style.
Does any of that sound familiar? We all have our stresses and our fears. We are all afraid of the ones we love seeing our imperfections. As a parent, when things don't go right we blame ourselves for the mistakes our children make and the mistakes we make on our own. That adds up to alot of frustration that alot of times comes out the wrong way. Fear of not knowing how to fix a problem only increases the problem.
If your dad won't talk to you then all you can do is live your life the best you can without aguing with him until he sees you for who you really are.
My daughter says alot of things that sound good but her actions make me afraid for her future and that only causes more frustration. Anytime I point try to talk about something that's not right, my daughter says "I'm sorry I can't do anything right, I'm sorry I'm not the daughter you want me to be" which is not even close to what I'm trying to say to her. She's so busy thinking of something to say that she's not listening. I love her more than life but I don't always love how she acts because her actions are self defeating and as her father it hurts to know that and not be able to help her see it.
What I'm trying to say to you is the same as what I tell her. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF !!! Live your life as best you can because you can do anything you want even without someone else's help.
If your dad has the wrong idea of who you are, don't get mad about it or doubt yourself. Prove him wrong but do it for yourself.
Like it or not there is only one person who you have to live with for the rest of your life and that is you.
It sounds to me like you are both unhappy and the only reason to be so unhappy with your current relationship is because you both love each other so much and miss the relationship you once had...I'm just sayin. It's not too late, just be humble and live your life as best you can.
Your comment helped the most!! Thank you so much!! I hope that your relationship with your daughter gets better!! The only advice I can offer is to just keep on doing what you are doing! You truly care for your daughter so just keep on supporting her(even if it's at a distance) and she will see it sooner or later! When my parents got divorced I had a very rebellious phase (pierced my own nose with a safety pin and dyed my hair black from light blonde, among other things...yeah, it was bad XD). I was terribly depressed and it took a while to get out of that hole. But I came out alive and so did my parents!
Thank you so much! I love how we both are basically in the same boat...but on opposite ends :)!!I really took this to heart!
Is it normal that I never want to be around my own Father?
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My daughter is no 17. When she was little she was a "daddy's girl". Always with me, watching tv with me and singing in the car etc. When she was 11, my wife left to live with someone else. Add that to my daughter turning into a teenager and quite frankly it's been downhill ever sense. I try to talk to her but she screams at me and treats me like crap at times even though she says she loves me. I love her too but many times I don't want to be around her because of how she acts. She's very smart but failing school, actually out of school and trying to get her GED which she can do if she ever completes the class. She made extremely high scores on entrance tests and is now bored to death.
It's simple, she's lost like most teenagers and just doesn't feel like sharing the secrets of her life with me because I'm dad and she's embarrassed because she knows I don't approve of her current life style.
Does any of that sound familiar? We all have our stresses and our fears. We are all afraid of the ones we love seeing our imperfections. As a parent, when things don't go right we blame ourselves for the mistakes our children make and the mistakes we make on our own. That adds up to alot of frustration that alot of times comes out the wrong way. Fear of not knowing how to fix a problem only increases the problem.
If your dad won't talk to you then all you can do is live your life the best you can without aguing with him until he sees you for who you really are.
My daughter says alot of things that sound good but her actions make me afraid for her future and that only causes more frustration. Anytime I point try to talk about something that's not right, my daughter says "I'm sorry I can't do anything right, I'm sorry I'm not the daughter you want me to be" which is not even close to what I'm trying to say to her. She's so busy thinking of something to say that she's not listening. I love her more than life but I don't always love how she acts because her actions are self defeating and as her father it hurts to know that and not be able to help her see it.
What I'm trying to say to you is the same as what I tell her. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF !!! Live your life as best you can because you can do anything you want even without someone else's help.
If your dad has the wrong idea of who you are, don't get mad about it or doubt yourself. Prove him wrong but do it for yourself.
Like it or not there is only one person who you have to live with for the rest of your life and that is you.
It sounds to me like you are both unhappy and the only reason to be so unhappy with your current relationship is because you both love each other so much and miss the relationship you once had...I'm just sayin. It's not too late, just be humble and live your life as best you can.
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Your comment helped the most!! Thank you so much!! I hope that your relationship with your daughter gets better!! The only advice I can offer is to just keep on doing what you are doing! You truly care for your daughter so just keep on supporting her(even if it's at a distance) and she will see it sooner or later! When my parents got divorced I had a very rebellious phase (pierced my own nose with a safety pin and dyed my hair black from light blonde, among other things...yeah, it was bad XD). I was terribly depressed and it took a while to get out of that hole. But I came out alive and so did my parents!
Thank you so much! I love how we both are basically in the same boat...but on opposite ends :)!!I really took this to heart!