I generally don't care much for giving religious answers, but since this is a religious questions...
It's more of a question of purity. How much do you value yourself, and does your partner value you enough to wait until the both of you are married? This "no sex before marriage" rule was originally intended as a property rite (you do not belong to your boyfriend or vice versa therefore he has no rights over your body) and a defense against giving birth to children that will not have the love and guidance of a father from their conception, which is when Christians believe that life begins.
If you wish to maintain your sexual purity, then I would suggest not allowing yourself to be in a situation with your boyfriend in which you would be able to have the physical contact that you are already having, meaning, keep dates in public and do not encourage making out or heavy petting. If he is respectful of you and your religion, then he will not force you or guilt you, if not, and you are determined to remain faithful to your religion, then you must find someone who shares your religious beliefs.
Personally, I broke this rule. I didn't fully submerge myself into the religion at that point so I didn't see the reasoning in it, but after being married (which makes it easy for me to be able to use better judgement as I am sexually satisfied by my husband on a regular basis), it's easy to see why premarital sex can become a problem.
So it's your choice. If you're not a devout Christian (you don't attend church every Sunday and you're not strong in your adherence to the belief in other areas of your life), then keeping certain commandments but not caring enough about the religion to go to church won't help you, so screw it. But if you are devout and you are having these problems, then go speak to a member of your church counsel about techniques to control your urges.
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I generally don't care much for giving religious answers, but since this is a religious questions...
It's more of a question of purity. How much do you value yourself, and does your partner value you enough to wait until the both of you are married? This "no sex before marriage" rule was originally intended as a property rite (you do not belong to your boyfriend or vice versa therefore he has no rights over your body) and a defense against giving birth to children that will not have the love and guidance of a father from their conception, which is when Christians believe that life begins.
If you wish to maintain your sexual purity, then I would suggest not allowing yourself to be in a situation with your boyfriend in which you would be able to have the physical contact that you are already having, meaning, keep dates in public and do not encourage making out or heavy petting. If he is respectful of you and your religion, then he will not force you or guilt you, if not, and you are determined to remain faithful to your religion, then you must find someone who shares your religious beliefs.
Personally, I broke this rule. I didn't fully submerge myself into the religion at that point so I didn't see the reasoning in it, but after being married (which makes it easy for me to be able to use better judgement as I am sexually satisfied by my husband on a regular basis), it's easy to see why premarital sex can become a problem.
So it's your choice. If you're not a devout Christian (you don't attend church every Sunday and you're not strong in your adherence to the belief in other areas of your life), then keeping certain commandments but not caring enough about the religion to go to church won't help you, so screw it. But if you are devout and you are having these problems, then go speak to a member of your church counsel about techniques to control your urges.