I don't know your age, but I do know what it feels like to have children at a young age: I had twin boys at 18.
Fortunately I was able to support myself financially with a husband whom I was ready to commit to, and we managed to buy property near his family.
But it was perhaps one of the hardest times of my life, despite the upsides; my husband is Irish, and although I was living with him in Ireland, I knew that if I secured a life there, the twins would be my absolute obligation - so I suspected that I may never see my parents in England again.
In the Republic of Ireland abortion is illegal anyway, so I would've gone to England to have one - but I just couldn't, like you. Besides, my mum had an abortion, it took a while before she had me: it almost snatched away her fertility. So I agree; no abortions may be a good plan.
But I can't say I'm fond of the adoption plan either, I'm afraid! Like joybird says, in the nine months it takes to nurture your baby, giving him or her up would break your heart. I was never considering adoption for my twins anyway, but I know that after feeling two little balls of life growing inside me, the idea of letting them go just brought me to tears.
I know that I wouldn't have survived without John and his family...even though they're in-laws, they made me feel so warm and comfortable and helped so much all through the twins' early life - right up until now, at age 5.
So perhaps you could see whether or not your family are willing to give you some help - even if it is just financially. Maybe you could save a bit of money for an apartment, or your baby's upbringing. You might be able to get a job, if you haven't already.
You sound like a very bright woman! Adoption is a tough thought to face, even when every cloud is grey and you can't seem to find that silver lining - but it is unbearable to think about never seeing your child again, never watching it grow or nurturing it to adulthood. I'm practically in tears, just imagining being unable to love my children - to show them love.
I hope with a heartfelt honesty that you will make a choice right for you.
Please let me know how things pan out - and rest assured, every cloud does have a silver lining, even if you can't see it through the rain.
Is it normal that I'm young and pregnant?
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Hey there,
I don't know your age, but I do know what it feels like to have children at a young age: I had twin boys at 18.
Fortunately I was able to support myself financially with a husband whom I was ready to commit to, and we managed to buy property near his family.
But it was perhaps one of the hardest times of my life, despite the upsides; my husband is Irish, and although I was living with him in Ireland, I knew that if I secured a life there, the twins would be my absolute obligation - so I suspected that I may never see my parents in England again.
In the Republic of Ireland abortion is illegal anyway, so I would've gone to England to have one - but I just couldn't, like you. Besides, my mum had an abortion, it took a while before she had me: it almost snatched away her fertility. So I agree; no abortions may be a good plan.
But I can't say I'm fond of the adoption plan either, I'm afraid! Like joybird says, in the nine months it takes to nurture your baby, giving him or her up would break your heart. I was never considering adoption for my twins anyway, but I know that after feeling two little balls of life growing inside me, the idea of letting them go just brought me to tears.
I know that I wouldn't have survived without John and his family...even though they're in-laws, they made me feel so warm and comfortable and helped so much all through the twins' early life - right up until now, at age 5.
So perhaps you could see whether or not your family are willing to give you some help - even if it is just financially. Maybe you could save a bit of money for an apartment, or your baby's upbringing. You might be able to get a job, if you haven't already.
You sound like a very bright woman! Adoption is a tough thought to face, even when every cloud is grey and you can't seem to find that silver lining - but it is unbearable to think about never seeing your child again, never watching it grow or nurturing it to adulthood. I'm practically in tears, just imagining being unable to love my children - to show them love.
I hope with a heartfelt honesty that you will make a choice right for you.
Please let me know how things pan out - and rest assured, every cloud does have a silver lining, even if you can't see it through the rain.
Good luck, lady!
xx