1. Please make your mom go see a Doctor to get checked as soon as possible. Just tell her the truth, about how the lady her husband had an affair with died of HIV and now that you see your mum getting sick you are very worried. It is normal to be worried under these circumstances. But you need to convince her to see the Doctor soon so she can get the right medicines IF she needs it, like everyone else has already said.
2.Don't worry about not having a boyfriend or being able to trust men in the future, just keep an open heart and when the time is right you will find someone one day that you can trust whom will not hurt you. Believe in that, and don't ever settle for less. Never let anyone abuse you or cheat on you, ever. There are people out there who will treat you well always, and that is who you should wait to find, and you will if you don't accept anything else but the best from men. People allow themselves to continue to be abused for many reasons: financial, physical, mental etc. Maybe you could read up on line about battered women's syndrome to understand your mum's mindset better.
3. It's okay to cry, in fact it's healthy to let your emotions out, so long as you do everything you can to try and improve your situation.
4. As for your comment about how there surely can't be a god- you are right in my opinion- there isn't one. How could there be with all these horrible things happening in the world? But that's okay. There doesn't need to be a god because we as people have the power to make the world a better place. It is not up to god- it is up to us.
5. Talk to someone about this soon. Try and find a therapist you trust. If you don't have money, in some communities there are drop-in centers that will give free counselling. Please look into that. You've had a lot of stress over the years as a young person.
Good luck to you and your innocent mother. Please take care of yourself, and stay safe. You sound like you remain a good person even with all your obstacles in life. People will respect your courage. Best wishes and be well.
Is it normal that I'm worried for my mum
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I am so sorry for all of that. How sad. :(
I have a lot to say here:
1. Please make your mom go see a Doctor to get checked as soon as possible. Just tell her the truth, about how the lady her husband had an affair with died of HIV and now that you see your mum getting sick you are very worried. It is normal to be worried under these circumstances. But you need to convince her to see the Doctor soon so she can get the right medicines IF she needs it, like everyone else has already said.
2.Don't worry about not having a boyfriend or being able to trust men in the future, just keep an open heart and when the time is right you will find someone one day that you can trust whom will not hurt you. Believe in that, and don't ever settle for less. Never let anyone abuse you or cheat on you, ever. There are people out there who will treat you well always, and that is who you should wait to find, and you will if you don't accept anything else but the best from men. People allow themselves to continue to be abused for many reasons: financial, physical, mental etc. Maybe you could read up on line about battered women's syndrome to understand your mum's mindset better.
3. It's okay to cry, in fact it's healthy to let your emotions out, so long as you do everything you can to try and improve your situation.
4. As for your comment about how there surely can't be a god- you are right in my opinion- there isn't one. How could there be with all these horrible things happening in the world? But that's okay. There doesn't need to be a god because we as people have the power to make the world a better place. It is not up to god- it is up to us.
5. Talk to someone about this soon. Try and find a therapist you trust. If you don't have money, in some communities there are drop-in centers that will give free counselling. Please look into that. You've had a lot of stress over the years as a young person.
Good luck to you and your innocent mother. Please take care of yourself, and stay safe. You sound like you remain a good person even with all your obstacles in life. People will respect your courage. Best wishes and be well.