Is it normal that i'm ugly and...

I never considered myself ugly until someone I really liked said so. Normally, I wouldn't have listened, but then I kept getting rejected over and over again. Now I'm afraid to even think about having a relationship with anyone.

Everyone I know is having sex all the time. I haven't even kissed a girl.

I've got lots of friends, so it's not a social factor.

I feel like I'll be a virgin forever. Getting laid just doesn't seem like a possibility in my mind.

I've given up on having a relationship.

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Based on 386 votes (268 yes)
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Comments ( 58 )
  • Tell a prince they're a beggar long enough and they'll eventually find cause to believe it.

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    • But on a more serious note:

      Whenever someone calls me ugly I get really sad and hug them.

      Life must be hard for the visually impaired :(

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  • bobbert

    I'm pretty sure 99/100 people would feel ugly and bad about themselves if someone they really cared about called them ugly. Totally normal, but not a good feeling. Go after whatever makes you happy. Many people find that they enjoy life by living the single life of hanging out with friends, doing whatever they want whenever, and all the other endless possibilities that there is with being single. Some people eventually really really feel like they need somebody and if that becomes the case, you can find a girl out there who is perfect and will always love you... if you look around hard enough and not give up. Good luck.

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  • Confidence and a good sense of humor could get the hunchback of notre dame laid

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  • Shaung1

    Yeah I hate it when society/human nature judge based on looks, it sickings me really!

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    • BathoryBeauty

      How true. The bombardment of what one should look like from the media/society is relentless. I myself am not even close to what society deems "beautiful" but I still think I am. To quote one of my favorite movies "It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." Pulp Fiction - Fabienne

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  • DollyBoots

    Dnt let one girl or a couple ruin it for you): there's TONS of ppl your bound to catch someone's eye(: my bf has a chipped tooth, button nose, pimples on his forehead, greasy n red, n short but DAAAAAAAMN he's the sexiest guy I know haha(: the point is keep your head up(: dnt feel ugly!!! <3

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  • MrDraper

    I suffer from ugly face hot body syndrome, just bulk up bro, get a six pack and some muscle, give time to grow into your manish good looks. I have a fat nose and big forehead so i bulked up and i dont regret it

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    • Allistalla

      butter face?

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  • Didn't you hear? Being a nice person will get you better results with the opposite sex than good looks?

    ...Obviously you have lived through the reality that begs to differ, which is a shame.

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  • tripw7

    This has been here for awhile, but so has sex. I can identify with you as I was similar. Then I met the love of my life. She is beautiful and she tells me I am handsome. We have two beautiful kids and life is good. Go for it my friend.

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  • Why don't u try an older woman, they are better in sex anyway. And if your not that good looking they will be flattered that you want to F_____ them.

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  • Tellurian

    Some people (mostly younger persons) have very narrow ideas about what is attractive, and they can be cruel in expressing it. An example: I found that, since I committed myself to identifying beauty in people of other racial/cultural/etc. groups, I find a lot more people attractive than I used to.

    If you don't think you're ugly, you're not. Girls like guys who are confident and comfortable in their own skin. Just ignore the critics and don't let them bring you down. Most probably, they feel threatened by you.

    And don't stress over getting kissed. It'll happen when it happens. Ain't nobody's business.

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  • lalalalalala1

    I think thats really bad of someone to do.But just because she said it it doenst mean you are ugly

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Girls only care about your height or your money.

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  • rikki

    Its normal, dont worry you'll find someone who is perfect for you!

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      but how do you know that?

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  • Stazy1378

    The more time people spend together the more attractive they become to one another. Its a proven fact. That's because you adjust to difference in features and you see more of the individual basied on your personal experiences and feelings for the person. That being said, don't bombard women, play it cool and make sure they see you around. Always be friendly, warm and kind and you will catch their attention. Anyone, who would be so rude isn't who you want to be with anyway. And quit trying to pick up chicks because you want to get laid. It's a stupid mindset to get into. Why worry about one time when, with a little effort you can have it for life.

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      you make it sound easier than it is
      if you saw me, you'd know

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  • sa11

    your "friend" must not have been worth it. i mean it's downright cruel to tell someone they are ugly to their face. and i don't think it's true. fuck what she said. you make your own reality. don't let ONE incident mess up your love life.

    some of the ugliest celebrities are married to the most beautiful women in the world. work on your personality and pursue things you actually like... like sports? make yourself more well-rounded and focus on becoming an interesting person. have fun and try to learn how to love yourself in your own skin. eventually, doing these things will make you irresistible. who can resist a man who loves his life and is happy with who he is with or without a woman?

    that will attract the girls.

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  • Shy-girl122

    I am a girl myself, and trust me, when I call a boy ugly, I'm just trying to hide the fact that I am attracted to them. What I'm saying is, maybe you have a chance. You will have sex eventually, everyone will. If she calls you ugly again, just pretend you don't give a shit, be cool. Say, 'I know right' or somthing. Won't let her win the fight. She wins when you get upset. Confidence is the key.

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      Isaac Newton died a virgin :|

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  • Allistalla

    I hate to sound like a prude but did you try hygiene? I have known a few men who were cute and sweet but dressed sloppy, always had dirty/smelly cloth and BO like no tommorow and did not brush or comb there hiar or teeth hardly ever. This mught take from your charm as women do not always want a dirty smelly or lazy slob.

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      i think i'm good there

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  • ssgirlyyzz

    nobody is ugly.

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  • boohilubchu

    Hire a prostitute, they don't care about looks

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    • Allistalla

      ahahaha true!

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  • whitepeach

    Don't worry, it's not the end of the world. A kind attitude will appeal more to a girl. Looks won't last forever. As a girl, I get attracted to funny + nice guys more than "hot" guys. However there ARE things I'll completely reject from a guy, for example: Fat and short. I don't mean to offend anyone but that's just my personal taste.

    Anyway, I'm sure there are girls out there who find you attractive, some might secretly want you! Go out and meet new people ;)

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  • 011assasin

    Take a physical activity, Gain self confidence, and tell that person to go fuck themselves.

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  • jucedaguy

    Your friend who told you that has insecurities.

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  • keeping_up_with_da_kids

    Ugly is just a opinion not a fact.

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  • Username1590

    Who are they to judge you? Man no one is ugly and It's the inside that counts ;)

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  • curiousd

    Ugly is a state of mind. You need to fake it 'til you make it, i.e. tell yourself you're a stud everyday. Do things that make you feel confident. Don't dwell on the details of your face etc. when you look in the mirror, because anyone can find flaws doing that. It's really annoying to get stuck in that habit. In fact, you should limit mirror time for shaving and making sure your clothes match. Nothing else!

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  • LovingTogether

    Every youth is handsome or beautiful. Never give up. And keep masturbating so you don't lose your sex interest. As they say, "Use it or lose it."

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    • Allistalla

      So not true in cases of sex.

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  • mupurple11

    Just because one person said it doesn't mean everyone thinks that. Don't let it bother you too much. Personality matters more anyhow.

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      not to the majority

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  • xathira

    Why the hell would you like somebody that has it in their heart to call someone else "ugy"?

    That's fucking rude. I'd NEVER do that to anyone, unless that person had threatened to kill my family, or had bullied me mercilessly for years.

    Hold your head high and stop liking losers.

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  • YumInsanity

    That's the spirit, don't buy into this bullshit Hallmark and Hollywood perpetuated myth that everyone finds someone; you're more than likey going to be alone for your whole life, just like everyone else

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  • Masteryi

    I kno that feeling...
    There is always hope and never give up...
    If i had i wouldnt writing this to you now...
    Remember once u will find someone whole ull love and wholl love you... ;)
    Never give up and trust in yourself...

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  • Marisol

    I was always the one to get rejected, hehe. I have gotten to the point where I don't care anymore. And, to be honest, all those who call you ugly are ugly themselves (even if they are beautiful, that does not mean that they aren't ugly inside).

    Trust me, there is always someone who will love you the way that you are. All of us find some people attractive. What I find attractive, others may say that it isn't.

    My advice is to stop feeling that way, compliment yourself and boost your confidence. All those who stand in your way can stuff it.

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  • JustDave

    No matter who you are, someone will think you're ugly while someone else will think you are gorgeous. Your job is to seek out the ones you make drool.

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  • beautiful + nasty = ugly

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  • valueduser

    Anybody who calls someone names, including 'ugly', has their own insecurities. Shallow assholes shouldn't make you contimplate being a virgin forever. I'm sure you're goos looking and I believe there's someone out there for EVERYONE, even if you are 'ugly'. :)

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    • valueduser

      *good

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  • Lalagirl

    Rejection happens my frend. It happened to me but don't get scared that you might never even be on a relationship. Be yourself you are NOT ugly. And life isn't exactly about having sex all the time.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I'm ugly as shit, but I guess I must have a decent personality because I've dated plenty of men that would have been interested in a relationship with me. I know women have an easier time getting laid, but that doesn't guarantee a relationship =\

    Just don't even think about it. If you brood on yourself too much your self esteem will be affected and women aren't terribly attracted to men with weak self image.

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    • JustDave

      At the risk of sounding like a creeper, I've seen your picture. You're anything but ugly. Pretty cute actually!

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  • anti-hero

    That is odd, I am ugly as hell and I still have to beat the ladies off with a stick.

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    • Allistalla

      Are you rich?

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      • anti-hero

        No not really.

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        • Unimportant

          There's only one possibility left then. You must be very skilled at coitus.

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          • anti-hero

            Close but no cigar my friend.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Not everyone will find you attractive. Years ago I was at a bar and some Guy would not stop staring at me and I finally said what the fuck are you looking at?!?!?! He told my boyfriend he wished he a girlfriend like me because I was so beautiful. The next weekend at the same bar some other dude said I was the ugliest girl he'd ever seen. Haha both of them were wrong :)

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  • ralcor

    Find yourself a fat ugly chick they are actually pretty good F--ks. Just don't go down on them there's very little ventilation down there and it tends to smell like an old transient sock. Good luck my friend and stay thristy.

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    • ISMFOFiscool

      wat

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