Okay, you're not attracted to this guy, fine. Tell him.
But tell him first, and don't nag about him to your friends. You let off some steam on the internet and thats okay, since we don't know him. Now you have to let him go and keep each other out of your lifes, because it sounds to mee like you hate him and being friends would end up hurting both of you.
After your long rant, I also feel like I have to defend this boy a little. You think he's a looser because he doesen't care about his looks, his grades or his future.
But many of your friends with their great plans and good grades will statistically end up achieving nothing. And when their dreams are crushed, nobody cares about what grades they once had and their looks have faded it will be very hard for them to start focusing on the things that really matter in life.
While that looser boy who likes you is probably a lot more open to embrace whatever may come.
I'm not saying he's better then your friends, but school is way to early in life to deside who's a looser.
Due to that 2nd paragraph, I've lost a lifelong "friend" and person I dated for 4 months due to school expectations and her own unrealistic goals so I can say that people really do put school on a fantasy pole and won't end up anywhere. Everyone dreams and gets degrees but very FEW actually do anything with them. Most only do it because society unfairly requires it, not because they actually like calculus or will use it in real life. I think it'd be wise for the OP not to judge like that as I find bookworms and top of the class junkies to fail in actual life skills after all that is done.
As for the topic, just like everyone says, its normal that you aren't attracted to the guy, that is no crime. It is one to be so judgmental though, supposed "losers" are usually the best company in disguise, I can guarantee that.
As I was reading the OP's post, I was starting to feel like the 'loser boy' and after reading your comment, it made me feel so much better. Just wanted to say thanks for the smart comment =]
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Okay, you're not attracted to this guy, fine. Tell him.
But tell him first, and don't nag about him to your friends. You let off some steam on the internet and thats okay, since we don't know him. Now you have to let him go and keep each other out of your lifes, because it sounds to mee like you hate him and being friends would end up hurting both of you.
After your long rant, I also feel like I have to defend this boy a little. You think he's a looser because he doesen't care about his looks, his grades or his future.
But many of your friends with their great plans and good grades will statistically end up achieving nothing. And when their dreams are crushed, nobody cares about what grades they once had and their looks have faded it will be very hard for them to start focusing on the things that really matter in life.
While that looser boy who likes you is probably a lot more open to embrace whatever may come.
I'm not saying he's better then your friends, but school is way to early in life to deside who's a looser.
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Due to that 2nd paragraph, I've lost a lifelong "friend" and person I dated for 4 months due to school expectations and her own unrealistic goals so I can say that people really do put school on a fantasy pole and won't end up anywhere. Everyone dreams and gets degrees but very FEW actually do anything with them. Most only do it because society unfairly requires it, not because they actually like calculus or will use it in real life. I think it'd be wise for the OP not to judge like that as I find bookworms and top of the class junkies to fail in actual life skills after all that is done.
As for the topic, just like everyone says, its normal that you aren't attracted to the guy, that is no crime. It is one to be so judgmental though, supposed "losers" are usually the best company in disguise, I can guarantee that.
As I was reading the OP's post, I was starting to feel like the 'loser boy' and after reading your comment, it made me feel so much better. Just wanted to say thanks for the smart comment =]
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You're welcome :)
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