I'm not! I told him I wasn't helping him with gas if he keeps taking these joy rides. And, his tank wasn't even half empty. It was still pretty full. See, he never seems to worry about the money spent on gasing up, which he should bc he's only receiving unemployement, and that's not a lot at all!
1) If you pay taxes you're paying for him to do this. (in fact we're ALL paying his way)
2) Is he contributing to the household? If he's spending all of his unemployment money on moody gas driving, what's he contributing to keeping the household running?
I mean it's one thing to just do this once in a while, but now he's driving around because he's moody every night, for 7+ hours?
Maybe it's time he stopped thinking of just himself and his moody feelings and started contributing to your household and relationship.
Exactly. For the record, he doesn't go every day. He's been going one day out of the week for the past three/four weeks now. He went two days last week; once bc he just wanted to go (Tues. night) and the other time was on Friday night bc we got into a fight, which wasn't even a major one at all! And when he came home at 4 am, he slept in the living room. We made up on Saturday, and everything was fine, until I checked his miles yesterday. :( I'm so afraid that our relationship may end ver soon.
I know that there has got to be a tracker app you can download on his smart phone if you're that curious. He should tell you where, just so long as you're not up his ass "UR CHEATING ON ME ARENT UUUU!!!!"
Haha, no, I'm not doing that because I can't assume anything since I don't have hard evidence. He could be cheating or he could not be cheating. He could be going to strip clubs or not going. I have no idea. I actually tell him, "I know you're not a cheater."
He doesn't have a smart phone. But I don't know how I'll feel to download that app on his phone anyway.
Try to get into his head before you jump to conclusions. But that is extremely suspicious that that money is coming outta nowhere. Either he is getting into some debt or he got into something else.
Granted if you guys don't have sex and he turns you down when you try to initiate then major red light. Something seems majorly wrong in your relationship. Even I can sense when my husband is worried and I'm willing to give up a tiny bit of my independence for his comfort.
YO, that's a serious red flag right there.
Serious red flag.
He MIGHT be cheating. Not to try to worry you over nothing, but if you guys haven't had sex since November??? Serious red flag.
I'd hate to admit this, but I cheated on a boyfriend once, and I would not have sex with him after I cheated or while I was cheating. Because I didn't want him anymore. I was just too comfortable with the stability in the relationship. There's no way that he is happy with the relationship if he is withholding intimacy.
I know that you two are adults, but unless you guys are a couple of middle-aged or senior citizens there is no excuse to have to go 3+ months without intimacy.
I may be totally mistaken, but even adults with a low sex drive know they have a bad relationship when the sex is dwindling THAT much.
Is it normal that I'm suspicious of my boyfriend?
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I'm not! I told him I wasn't helping him with gas if he keeps taking these joy rides. And, his tank wasn't even half empty. It was still pretty full. See, he never seems to worry about the money spent on gasing up, which he should bc he's only receiving unemployement, and that's not a lot at all!
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You're paying for it anyway - in two ways really.
1) If you pay taxes you're paying for him to do this. (in fact we're ALL paying his way)
2) Is he contributing to the household? If he's spending all of his unemployment money on moody gas driving, what's he contributing to keeping the household running?
I mean it's one thing to just do this once in a while, but now he's driving around because he's moody every night, for 7+ hours?
Maybe it's time he stopped thinking of just himself and his moody feelings and started contributing to your household and relationship.
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Exactly. For the record, he doesn't go every day. He's been going one day out of the week for the past three/four weeks now. He went two days last week; once bc he just wanted to go (Tues. night) and the other time was on Friday night bc we got into a fight, which wasn't even a major one at all! And when he came home at 4 am, he slept in the living room. We made up on Saturday, and everything was fine, until I checked his miles yesterday. :( I'm so afraid that our relationship may end ver soon.
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I know that there has got to be a tracker app you can download on his smart phone if you're that curious. He should tell you where, just so long as you're not up his ass "UR CHEATING ON ME ARENT UUUU!!!!"
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Haha, no, I'm not doing that because I can't assume anything since I don't have hard evidence. He could be cheating or he could not be cheating. He could be going to strip clubs or not going. I have no idea. I actually tell him, "I know you're not a cheater."
He doesn't have a smart phone. But I don't know how I'll feel to download that app on his phone anyway.
Try to get into his head before you jump to conclusions. But that is extremely suspicious that that money is coming outta nowhere. Either he is getting into some debt or he got into something else.
Granted if you guys don't have sex and he turns you down when you try to initiate then major red light. Something seems majorly wrong in your relationship. Even I can sense when my husband is worried and I'm willing to give up a tiny bit of my independence for his comfort.
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We've only had sex twice since November, and he's the one that's been turning me down :(
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so what exactly are you getting out of this relationship then?
WHOA.
YO, that's a serious red flag right there.
Serious red flag.
He MIGHT be cheating. Not to try to worry you over nothing, but if you guys haven't had sex since November??? Serious red flag.
I'd hate to admit this, but I cheated on a boyfriend once, and I would not have sex with him after I cheated or while I was cheating. Because I didn't want him anymore. I was just too comfortable with the stability in the relationship. There's no way that he is happy with the relationship if he is withholding intimacy.
I know that you two are adults, but unless you guys are a couple of middle-aged or senior citizens there is no excuse to have to go 3+ months without intimacy.
I may be totally mistaken, but even adults with a low sex drive know they have a bad relationship when the sex is dwindling THAT much.