The thing is, if he has problems, or needs support, he should be able and willing to come to you! Thats a very basic partnership thing about bonding.
But rather than that, when he has problems or stress, he TURNS AWAY from you, going somewhere else.
The fact with his mileage shows he's going SOMEWHERE, not driving around all the time as he claims.
While i think it's a very real possibility he just meets with friends for a few beers or has another spot to go to, it _IS_ weird.
Obviously, it's something he doesn't want to share, or that he does not want to tell you about.
Starting from an affair, or a strip club, or a drug habit, or whatever...anything that would not fly well with you seems an obvious reason to lie about where he goes and what he does.
130 miles would be 65 back and forth, quite a distance, but should be easier to guess which area he was going.
The thing is, he does NOT come to you for support when he has a problem...ok, not everybody like that...
but, more importantly, he doesn't trust you about knowing HOW he lets of steam, doesn't trust you to know what he's doing or what works for him.
And thats a very valid reason to be suspicious. For all you know, he could be meeting with another women, or go to clansmeetings, or whatever....
Is it normal that I'm suspicious of my boyfriend?
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I think it's normal that you are suspicious!
The thing is, if he has problems, or needs support, he should be able and willing to come to you! Thats a very basic partnership thing about bonding.
But rather than that, when he has problems or stress, he TURNS AWAY from you, going somewhere else.
The fact with his mileage shows he's going SOMEWHERE, not driving around all the time as he claims.
While i think it's a very real possibility he just meets with friends for a few beers or has another spot to go to, it _IS_ weird.
Obviously, it's something he doesn't want to share, or that he does not want to tell you about.
Starting from an affair, or a strip club, or a drug habit, or whatever...anything that would not fly well with you seems an obvious reason to lie about where he goes and what he does.
130 miles would be 65 back and forth, quite a distance, but should be easier to guess which area he was going.
The thing is, he does NOT come to you for support when he has a problem...ok, not everybody like that...
but, more importantly, he doesn't trust you about knowing HOW he lets of steam, doesn't trust you to know what he's doing or what works for him.
And thats a very valid reason to be suspicious. For all you know, he could be meeting with another women, or go to clansmeetings, or whatever....
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Man, I know it's a pain in the ass to lie to the insurance adjuster but I am now very happy that my odometer is broken.