If she cheated on you, then you need to assess whether you truly want her back, or if you miss the old relationship.
I had a similar problem. My high school sweetheart & I dated for at least a year. Valentines Day weekend, we "break" for a week, at which point he goes to a party & loses his virginity to some random chick. I hear about this a month later, forgive him, & he even "proposed" (more a promise to propose) in June. July he left me, no explanation. It took YEARS to really get over it... I'm 23 now & the first time I didn't stutter when I saw him was last year (pathetic I know). I knew though that it wasn't him I missed anymore, it was the good memories I missed. So yes, it is normal... but it doesn't mean you have to try to get her back.
That kind of relationship is very powerful, but you need to be honest with yourself in what you really want, and what is possible now. Is it fair to yourself to chase this girl; will you be able to have a real relationship where you can trust her? Will it make you happy, or will you constantly have the "what-ifs" in your head? Remember, don't let someone else make you unhappy! If she hurts you, then find someone who doesn't... or just don't worry about a dog-gone relationship right now! :-)
I truly do want her back....but I guess your right about the "what ifs". I would probably have trouble trusting her , but what can I do? She is stuck in my head and I see her almost everyday. I try to forget and it's not that simple. Well thanks anyway for your comment , it made me feel a lot better. :)
Glad i could help :-) I promise, it will get better. You just need time. I know these seem like just words, but eventually you'll look back and appreciate the good parts of the relationship, while taking the bad parts as a learning experience.
Is it normal that I'm still confused why she broke up with me?
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If she cheated on you, then you need to assess whether you truly want her back, or if you miss the old relationship.
I had a similar problem. My high school sweetheart & I dated for at least a year. Valentines Day weekend, we "break" for a week, at which point he goes to a party & loses his virginity to some random chick. I hear about this a month later, forgive him, & he even "proposed" (more a promise to propose) in June. July he left me, no explanation. It took YEARS to really get over it... I'm 23 now & the first time I didn't stutter when I saw him was last year (pathetic I know). I knew though that it wasn't him I missed anymore, it was the good memories I missed. So yes, it is normal... but it doesn't mean you have to try to get her back.
That kind of relationship is very powerful, but you need to be honest with yourself in what you really want, and what is possible now. Is it fair to yourself to chase this girl; will you be able to have a real relationship where you can trust her? Will it make you happy, or will you constantly have the "what-ifs" in your head? Remember, don't let someone else make you unhappy! If she hurts you, then find someone who doesn't... or just don't worry about a dog-gone relationship right now! :-)
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I truly do want her back....but I guess your right about the "what ifs". I would probably have trouble trusting her , but what can I do? She is stuck in my head and I see her almost everyday. I try to forget and it's not that simple. Well thanks anyway for your comment , it made me feel a lot better. :)
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Glad i could help :-) I promise, it will get better. You just need time. I know these seem like just words, but eventually you'll look back and appreciate the good parts of the relationship, while taking the bad parts as a learning experience.
Stay happy!
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I'll try to be happy as possible as I can , thank you for your soothing words :)