Is it normal that i'm so sensitive?

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I am a 21 year old female and I had only two "real" girl friends up until recently. Both of these people I have known since I was about 8 years old.

Over the years, especially the high school ones, we lost touch a bit and went our separate ways. Though they always found new people to hang out with, I had trouble keeping the new female friends that I made and usually ended up getting along better with my boyfriend's friends (males). The few times I made girl friends, they usually got mad at me over something that didn't happen and used it as an excuse to talk about me and spread mean rumors. I guess that sort of scared me away for trying to have a relationship with any girl ever again, always being wary of what they really thought of me or what their true intentions were.

I came to be happy with having just my two close girlfriends until recently one of them called me a "liar" stating that I lie about everything, and when I reacted by being hurt and confused...and angry, she said she was just joking. I get told that I am too sensitive or take things too personally but to me calling someone a liar is not a funny joke! Needless to say we fought and she basically just text me non-stop about how my whole life I act like this and that and I'm so this and that.... I told her to come say it to my face, my usual defense being act like a tough guy when being attacked... Anyway, I don't think we'll talk again now and so that leaves me with one friend.

I like being sensitive, I don't want to change who I am just so I can make nice with more people. It makes me more in tune with others feelings, it makes me less likely to hurt someone else! So why is it so hard to make friends! Is it normal that I only have one friend? Is the common denominator here me? Am I the problem? I have no idea, a part of me says maybe though I can act tough, I don't have thick enough skin for society. But the other part of me says so what, I don't want to be that way anyway.

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  • cherrybomb21
    13 years ago

    Sounds pretty similar to my situation, I have about three real girl friends and everyone else is just an aquaintance. I also get along with my boyfriend's guy friends and find it easier to relate with guys in general. I think its completely normal... the question is are you really happy with your situation? Even though some people place importance on having a lot of friends, I truly don't and I'm very happy to spend time by myself and with the few people I choose to hang out with. Don't let anyone make you think you need to have more friends than you do and don't think you need to act tough if its not really you. Just be yourself and people will appreciate you for that. There's nothing wrong with being sensitive and you should never be ashamed of that.

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  • red_gal_85
    13 years ago

    to me it sounds like you know what your talking about girls can be such catty bitches! And friends like that aren't worth keeping I've had a similar situation happen to me. My best advice would be don't worry about girls like that It doesn't matter how many "friends" you have what matters is what kind of friend u are and what u deserve... plus I'd rather have one true friend over 10000000 superficial ones. You have a good head on you shoulders you'll get there :). Those girls are just jealous cause you are so laid back with the guys.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    People almost always leave. That's what I've learned. You just have to deal with it. You may find the rare few that won't but not many people will stay. People are flakey, unreliable and only good for hanging out once in awhile.

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    • sharpievivid
      13 years ago

      that's a horrible thing to say and completely untrue. all you need to do is find more friends who are sensitive or understand your sensitivity most really nice people are sensitive, just be yourself.

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