I have the same problem. And for me it's gotten worse through the years. When I was younger I was always the one making the phone calls and trying to keep the friendships going. Then one year that all slowly stopped. I got sick of always being that person who was doing most of the work, and I was already an introvert to begin with, so doing what I did on top of that made it that much worse. Now, people often ask me to do stuff with them, but I can't help but let the friendship fade. That long break I had of not depending on anybody as a "friend", has made me realize that the company that I love the most is my own. Even though I kinda already knew that, and always have enjoyed my sweet alone time.
I guess, just like you, I feel like nobody ever really cares anyway either. I mean, the people who I used to be close with never asked me questions like how I was feeling. I always got the impression no one cared. And thats when I slowly began to veer away from those people. Today, I sometimes have to really push myself to return a phone call. In the past I would always return phone calls. After all, isn't rude to not return them? Well, because I'm such an introverted person it is hard to keep friendships. And I often find myself not really liking being around other people sometimes. I live for my alone time where I can just sit and go over the thoughts in my mind. Sorry this was long. And I'm sorry that I don't have any advice to help you really. I just wanted you to know you're not alone.
In response to your case, I knew someone who is an introvert. He told me about that he's an introvert and doesn't want to talk to people a lot. He's somewhat weird but I cared for him so I ask him why and to my amazement he shared the things that most people didn't know about him. And I felt so blessed coz he shared a part of his life and his story with me. I felt so lucky upon knowing he just share to someone whom he think can be trusted. Maybe nobody just try to make you feel important that's why nobody's attempting to ask even like " how have you been"..
IIN that I'm so introvert that I lose friends?
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I have the same problem. And for me it's gotten worse through the years. When I was younger I was always the one making the phone calls and trying to keep the friendships going. Then one year that all slowly stopped. I got sick of always being that person who was doing most of the work, and I was already an introvert to begin with, so doing what I did on top of that made it that much worse. Now, people often ask me to do stuff with them, but I can't help but let the friendship fade. That long break I had of not depending on anybody as a "friend", has made me realize that the company that I love the most is my own. Even though I kinda already knew that, and always have enjoyed my sweet alone time.
I guess, just like you, I feel like nobody ever really cares anyway either. I mean, the people who I used to be close with never asked me questions like how I was feeling. I always got the impression no one cared. And thats when I slowly began to veer away from those people. Today, I sometimes have to really push myself to return a phone call. In the past I would always return phone calls. After all, isn't rude to not return them? Well, because I'm such an introverted person it is hard to keep friendships. And I often find myself not really liking being around other people sometimes. I live for my alone time where I can just sit and go over the thoughts in my mind. Sorry this was long. And I'm sorry that I don't have any advice to help you really. I just wanted you to know you're not alone.
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In response to your case, I knew someone who is an introvert. He told me about that he's an introvert and doesn't want to talk to people a lot. He's somewhat weird but I cared for him so I ask him why and to my amazement he shared the things that most people didn't know about him. And I felt so blessed coz he shared a part of his life and his story with me. I felt so lucky upon knowing he just share to someone whom he think can be trusted. Maybe nobody just try to make you feel important that's why nobody's attempting to ask even like " how have you been"..